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Love & Sex

LGBTQ2S+ people disproportionately experience intimate partner violence
Relationships

LGBTQ2S+ people disproportionately experience intimate partner violence

New study examines the nature of intimate partner violence in queer and trans communities

By Emma Bainbridge
I’m a trans man who doesn’t want to transition medically or socially. Am I betraying my community?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m a trans man who doesn’t want to transition medically or socially. Am I betraying my community?

Kai advises a reader who feels pressure to stay in the closet

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’m a closeted teen. How do I flirt if I don’t know who’s gay?
Ask Kai: Quickies

I’m a closeted teen. How do I flirt if I don’t know who’s gay?

“I’m a big fan of just asking questions because that is the way we are most likely to get clear answers,” Kai Cheng advises

By Kai Cheng Thom, Lito Howse
Cinema’s first-ever kiss was between two women
History

Cinema’s first-ever kiss was between two women

The first filmed kiss was a queer milestone, and a pivotal moment in the history of cinema, but almost nobody has heard of it. How did this happen?

By Lily ALexandre
My bosses keep misgendering my co-worker. Should I say something?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My bosses keep misgendering my co-worker. Should I say something?

“It takes a strong soul to correct a person in a position of power—but this is what it means to stand up to injustice.”

By Kai Cheng Thom
U.S. Senate to hold final vote on Respect for Marriage Act on Nov. 28, helping protect same-sex couples
Politics

U.S. Senate to hold final vote on Respect for Marriage Act on Nov. 28, helping protect same-sex couples

Queer Americans are celebrating the culmination of a decade-long campaign to protect same-sex couples from one of the country’s most homophobic federal laws

By Rob Salerno
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My ex says I harmed them. How can I disagree without invalidating their experience?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My ex says I harmed them. How can I disagree without invalidating their experience?

A reader navigates wanting to challenge a previous partner’s version of events—without turning the conflict into a “he said, she said” situation

By Kai Cheng Thom
Same-sex couples have less stressful marriages, according to science
Relationships

Same-sex couples have less stressful marriages, according to science

A new study says collaborative stress-management skills are higher in same-sex couples than in different-sex couples

By Maddy Mahoney
I’m not on PrEP. Is it weird to ask for condoms during hook-ups?
Video

I’m not on PrEP. Is it weird to ask for condoms during hook-ups?

“I assure you, you are doing nothing wrong by asking to practice safer sex,” Kai advises

By Kai Cheng Thom, Lito Howse
These are the best sex toys for ‘sides’
Love & Sex

These are the best sex toys for ‘sides’

From vibrators to strokers, these sex toys are perfect for people who don’t want to prioritize penetration during masturbation or partnered play

By Bobby Box
Grindr’s new CEO supports ‘some’ of Trump’s policies. Why are we surprised?
Love & Sex

Grindr’s new CEO supports ‘some’ of Trump’s policies. Why are we surprised?

OPINION: George Arison’s tweets are just another reminder: corporations are not our friends

By Alex V Green
How do my girlfriend and I overcome ‘lesbian bed death’?
Ask Kai: Quickies

How do my girlfriend and I overcome ‘lesbian bed death’?

Spend some time together naked or in a bath without the goal being sex, Kai advises

By Kai Cheng Thom
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I want to help queer youth—but I’m afraid of being labelled a “groomer”
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I want to help queer youth—but I’m afraid of being labelled a “groomer”

“Let’s go to war with the heterosexual world. Let’s kill the homophobe in our hearts and trample its grave”

By Kai Cheng Thom
When is it okay to ask someone with less privilege than you to cut you some slack?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

When is it okay to ask someone with less privilege than you to cut you some slack?

Kai answers a reader whose conflict with a friend is further complicated by race, mental health and privilege

By Kai Cheng Thom
My partner became solo poly without telling me
Ask Kai: Quickies

My partner became solo poly without telling me

“Whenever that kind of news comes as a surprise or comes secondhand or thirdhand, then it is likely to be hurtful,” Kai says

By Corey Misquita, Kai Cheng Thom
All I wanted was to make my family happy, until I found what made me happy 
Love Like Mine

All I wanted was to make my family happy, until I found what made me happy 

PERSONAL ESSAY: An epic love story between an Iraqi Arab and a Punjabi Sikh

By Hasan Namir
I sent some (fully dressed) selfies to a prospective date and they blocked me. What am I missing?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I sent some (fully dressed) selfies to a prospective date and they blocked me. What am I missing?

Kai helps a reader navigate the sometimes complicated world of personal boundaries

By Kai Cheng Thom
This lesbian couple just married in Romania—even though same-sex marriage is illegal
Marriage Equality

This lesbian couple just married in Romania—even though same-sex marriage is illegal

The women were able to sidestep their country’s definition of marriage because one of them had not yet had her gender changed on her official documents

By Ursula Muñoz S.
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