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Love & Sex

Going on a sex vacation made me wonder: am I demisexual?
Love & Sex

Going on a sex vacation made me wonder: am I demisexual?

After a breakup, I thought I wanted to dive headfirst into casual sex. But I learned sexuality and desire are rarely static or easily defined

By Bobby Box
Double disclosure: How getting herpes helped me come out as bisexual
Love Like Mine

Double disclosure: How getting herpes helped me come out as bisexual

I’m still afraid of people’s reactions, but I’ve learned to live with the fear

By Cam Smith
How can I tell my partner that I want more alone time?
Ask Kai: Quickies

How can I tell my partner that I want more alone time?

A tricky question because there could be a lot of other questions behind it

By Xtra Video
Antarctica just had its first gay wedding
Relationships

Antarctica just had its first gay wedding

Stephen Carpenter and Eric Bourne became the first same-sex couple married in British Antarctic territory this past Sunday

By Oliver Haug
How do I know whether my relationship is abusive?
Relationships

How do I know whether my relationship is abusive?

My girlfriend and I are experiencing a lot of high-intensity conflict and anger—which is making me question whether either of us is being abusive

By Kai Cheng Thom
Does being curious about ‘butt stuff’ make me gay?
Ask Kai: Quickies

Does being curious about ‘butt stuff’ make me gay?

Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe the real question is, “Why does that matter?”

By Xtra Video
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My white friend is calling themselves a ‘shamanic’ healer. Should I tell them to stop?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My white friend is calling themselves a ‘shamanic’ healer. Should I tell them to stop?

Kai Cheng Thom weighs in on boundaries, cultural appropriation and how we can all grow through conflict

By Kai Cheng Thom
I joined the ‘ball sex revolution’ and turned my scrotum into a dildo
Love & Sex

I joined the ‘ball sex revolution’ and turned my scrotum into a dildo

The new sex toy Balldo promises to help users acheive a “ballgasm.” But is that something any of us really need to have?

By Bobby Box
Can anyone have nipple orgasms?
Ask Kai: Quickies

Can anyone have nipple orgasms?

When it comes to pleasure, it all boils down to exploration

By Xtra Video
My girlfriend wants to sleep with her other partners, but not with me—is that selfish?
Love & Sex

My girlfriend wants to sleep with her other partners, but not with me—is that selfish?

Kai advises a reader that relationship anarchy isn’t free from jealousy—or boundaries

By Kai Cheng Thom
Is it a good idea to have a threesome with my two best friends?
Ask Kai: Quickies

Is it a good idea to have a threesome with my two best friends?

Like mixing paints into new colours, erotic intimacy can be surprising

By Xtra Video
Dating as an autistic person can be challenging—but it’s also joyful and hot
Love & Sex

Dating as an autistic person can be challenging—but it’s also joyful and hot

Reframing the way we view “autistic traits,” like directness and openness, can make dating better for just about everybody

By Cassandra Kislenko
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My ex-roommate says I’m abusive for leaving my dirty dishes in the sink. Do I owe them accountability?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My ex-roommate says I’m abusive for leaving my dirty dishes in the sink. Do I owe them accountability?

Non-abusive conflict can still lead to harm. But, Kai says, “taking accountability is not the same thing as giving up your truth”

By Kai Cheng Thom
The great girlbossification of sex toys
Sexual Health

The great girlbossification of sex toys

Everyone from Nordstrom to Nasty Gal is hawking sex toys. But turning pleasure into yet another aspect of wellness isn’t the sex-positive leap forward retailers would like us to believe it is

By HG Watson
Is scissoring actually good for anyone?
Ask Kai: Quickies

Is scissoring actually good for anyone?

Some people might be into the fantasy and less into the actual experience

By Xtra Video
How one Facebook group is redefining Black queer and trans parenthood
Parenting

How one Facebook group is redefining Black queer and trans parenthood

A Black queer mother felt excluded in mainstream parenting spaces so she created an international community for mutual support

By Derrick Clifton
I got ghosted by a guy I really like. Should I confront him?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I got ghosted by a guy I really like. Should I confront him?

Kai advises a trans reader who keeps on getting ghosted: “your actions should be focused on providing yourself with closure instead of trying to squeeze it out of him”

By Kai Cheng Thom
TV shows need to stop being so weird about blowjobs
Sex

TV shows need to stop being so weird about blowjobs

It shouldn’t be shocking that a woman—or any consenting adult for that matter—enjoys giving head

By Quinn Rhodes
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