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Love & Sex

How can I get closure without accountability?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

How can I get closure without accountability?

Kai advises a reader who is having trouble moving on from a years-old hurt

By Kai Cheng Thom
Queering grief means showing up in all our messy glory
Queering Death

Queering grief means showing up in all our messy glory

Let’s collectively imagine how we might build a world where we all feel abundantly supported when we’re grieving

By Zena Sharman
I’ve met someone amazing, but I can’t stand the way he smells. How do I talk to him about it? 
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’ve met someone amazing, but I can’t stand the way he smells. How do I talk to him about it? 

Kai weighs in on how to have a “scentsitive” conversation with a new date 

By Kai Cheng Thom
We have the power to reimagine how we die and how we mourn
Queering Death

We have the power to reimagine how we die and how we mourn

We live queer lives—and we can die queer deaths too

By Zena Sharman
I’m asexual but I want to have sex at least once. How should I go about it?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m asexual but I want to have sex at least once. How should I go about it?

Kai reminds a reader to “go slowly and to only engage with activities that feel good, or at least okay”

By Kai Cheng Thom
Introducing ‘Queering Death,’ a 6-part look at the nuanced ways we die and mourn
Queering Death

Introducing ‘Queering Death,’ a 6-part look at the nuanced ways we die and mourn

Writer Zena Sharman says she wanted to look at how death can become a site of creativity, collective care, self-determination and resisting oppression

By Tara-Michelle Ziniuk
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My hookup lied to me and exposed me to an STI. Can I ghost him?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My hookup lied to me and exposed me to an STI. Can I ghost him?

Kai weighs in on whether every breakup has to come with an explanation

By Kai Cheng Thom
How getting diagnosed with autism helped me embrace my asexuality
Identity

How getting diagnosed with autism helped me embrace my asexuality

Disabled people aren’t a monolith, and not every autistic person is on the ace spectrum. But for me, the two parts of my identity are linked

By Rebecca Dingwell
‘Boyslut’ offers enlightened smut that shakes up the queer memoir shelf
Books

‘Boyslut’ offers enlightened smut that shakes up the queer memoir shelf

Bisexual sex columnist Zachary Zane’s memoir says “fuck you” to sexual shame and “fuck me” to just about everyone else

By Kevin Hurren
Sometimes I don’t feel attracted to my girlfriend. Should I leave her?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Sometimes I don’t feel attracted to my girlfriend. Should I leave her?

Kai advises a reader who is struggling with inconsistent desire

By Kai Cheng Thom
My friend detransitioned and has started to become transphobic. What should I do?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My friend detransitioned and has started to become transphobic. What should I do?

Kai Cheng Thom weighs in on how trans and detransitioned communities can cut through pain and anger to try to find compassion and understanding

By Kai Cheng Thom
How getting ghosted by ChatGPT showed me the bot’s true colours
Tech

How getting ghosted by ChatGPT showed me the bot’s true colours

ANALYSIS: ChatGPT’s evasive manoeuvres are an accurate analogy for our unfolding relationship with chatbots—a useful reminder for queer folks in particular

By Jon Heggestad
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My boyfriend can’t accept my body hair. Is it time to break up?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My boyfriend can’t accept my body hair. Is it time to break up?

A trans reader questions at what point a partner’s “preference” can become harmful

By Kai Cheng Thom
Is this the future of queer elder care?
Queering Family

Is this the future of queer elder care?

My stepdad’s long-term care facility has a Rainbow Wing for LGBTQ2S+ seniors. It’s a first in North America

By Stéphanie Verge
Home is where the heart is
Queering Family

Home is where the heart is

Queer families come in all shapes and sizes. But love is a constant, as these photos demonstrate

By Jordan Currie, Stéphanie Verge
The highs and lows of being a non-binary nanny
Queering Family

The highs and lows of being a non-binary nanny

Helping to raise someone else’s children has been life-affirming, even gender-affirming, but it’s not without complications

By Em Norton
Tracing my drag family tree
Queering Family

Tracing my drag family tree

Winnipeg queen Prairie Sky on the bonds that keep her drag children, grandchildren, cousins, nieces and aunties close

By Prairie Sky
Is it ever okay to cheat on a partner?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Is it ever okay to cheat on a partner?

A reader questions whether dishonesty is justified if it prevents conflict

By Kai Cheng Thom
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