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Dating

‘Comedic Timing’ is an unusually accurate depiction of dating as a bi woman
Books

‘Comedic Timing’ is an unusually accurate depiction of dating as a bi woman

REVIEW: Upasna Barath’s swoony debut novel challenges the norms of queer literature

By Kerensa Cadenas
Sook-Yin Lee’s new film shows that relationships don’t need to follow a specific path
TV & Film

Sook-Yin Lee’s new film shows that relationships don’t need to follow a specific path

REVIEW: “Paying for It” explores relationships that are romantic, platonic and transactional 

By Tara-Michelle Ziniuk
At 40, I celebrate aging as proof of queer survival  
Identity

At 40, I celebrate aging as proof of queer survival  

Entering middle age, I do not fear death, because it has been a constant companion for me since my 20s

By Blyth Barnow
‘Cora Bora’ is a coming-of-age movie for people in their thirties
TV & Film

‘Cora Bora’ is a coming-of-age movie for people in their thirties

Meg Stalter, Jojo T. Gibbs and Ayden Mayeri talk about creating a endearing, messy, realistic Sapphic love triangle

By Lindsay Lee Wallace
What ‘Grey’s Anatomy’ taught me about being in a queer relationship
Queer View Mirror

What ‘Grey’s Anatomy’ taught me about being in a queer relationship

How Seattle’s steamiest—and gayest—hospital helped me climb out from under a harrowing breakup

By Kevin Hurren
The blurred lines between ‘transamory’ and chasing
Excerpt

The blurred lines between ‘transamory’ and chasing

In this excerpt from their new book, “Gender/Fucking,” writer and professor Florence Ashley unpacks “chaserdom” and the fetishization of trans femininity

By Florence Ashley
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Why a lesbian ‘Love Is Blind’ just makes sense 
TV & Film

Why a lesbian ‘Love Is Blind’ just makes sense 

OPINION: Netflix, bring out the U-Hauls!

By Tara-Michelle Ziniuk
Catfish or cuddle queen? Dream date or heartbreak?

Catfish or cuddle queen? Dream date or heartbreak?

Better security and screening, Zoe is changing the face of dating apps

Created for Zoe
Ask Kai’s greatest hits
Love & Sex

Ask Kai’s greatest hits

A look back at some of Kai’s best and most notable columns

By Ziya Jones
‘Two Dykes and a Mic’ podcast hosts talk touring, queer community and letting lesbians laugh
Comedy

‘Two Dykes and a Mic’ podcast hosts talk touring, queer community and letting lesbians laugh

Rachel Scanlon and McKenzie Goodwin feel like “it’s summer camp every night”

By Mira Miller
I’ve met someone amazing, but I can’t stand the way he smells. How do I talk to him about it? 
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’ve met someone amazing, but I can’t stand the way he smells. How do I talk to him about it? 

Kai weighs in on how to have a “scentsitive” conversation with a new date 

By Kai Cheng Thom
My hookup lied to me and exposed me to an STI. Can I ghost him?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My hookup lied to me and exposed me to an STI. Can I ghost him?

Kai weighs in on whether every breakup has to come with an explanation

By Kai Cheng Thom
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My boyfriend can’t accept my body hair. Is it time to break up?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My boyfriend can’t accept my body hair. Is it time to break up?

A trans reader questions at what point a partner’s “preference” can become harmful

By Kai Cheng Thom
Is Lex abandoning its horniest users?
Dating

Is Lex abandoning its horniest users?

OPINION: As the app shifts its focus from fisting to friendship, those who initially used the platform for queer romance and sex are wondering if they still belong

By Noelle Perdue
How can I decolonize my desire?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

How can I decolonize my desire?

I’ve been taught all my life to prioritize white beauty standards and dismiss other BIPOC guys. How can I reclaim my sexuality?

By Kai Cheng Thom
Forget Sapphic yearning. Just make a move already!
Dating

Forget Sapphic yearning. Just make a move already!

But before we can get past intense eye contact and fleeting hand touches, we must first look deep within ourselves

By Cassandra Kislenko
I’m a closeted teen. How do I flirt if I don’t know who’s gay?
Ask Kai: Quickies

I’m a closeted teen. How do I flirt if I don’t know who’s gay?

“I’m a big fan of just asking questions because that is the way we are most likely to get clear answers,” Kai Cheng advises

By Kai Cheng Thom, Lito Howse
I’m not on PrEP. Is it weird to ask for condoms during hook-ups?
Video

I’m not on PrEP. Is it weird to ask for condoms during hook-ups?

“I assure you, you are doing nothing wrong by asking to practice safer sex,” Kai advises

By Kai Cheng Thom, Lito Howse
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