Entering middle age, I do not fear death, because it has been a constant companion for me since my 20s

Meg Stalter, Jojo T. Gibbs and Ayden Mayeri talk about creating a endearing, messy, realistic Sapphic love triangle

How Seattle’s steamiest—and gayest—hospital helped me climb out from under a harrowing breakup

In this excerpt from their new book, “Gender/Fucking,” writer and professor Florence Ashley unpacks “chaserdom” and the fetishization of trans femininity

OPINION: Netflix, bring out the U-Hauls!

Better security and screening, Zoe is changing the face of dating apps

A look back at some of Kai’s best and most notable columns

Rachel Scanlon and McKenzie Goodwin feel like “it’s summer camp every night”

Kai weighs in on how to have a “scentsitive” conversation with a new date

Kai weighs in on whether every breakup has to come with an explanation

A trans reader questions at what point a partner’s “preference” can become harmful

OPINION: As the app shifts its focus from fisting to friendship, those who initially used the platform for queer romance and sex are wondering if they still belong

I’ve been taught all my life to prioritize white beauty standards and dismiss other BIPOC guys. How can I reclaim my sexuality?

But before we can get past intense eye contact and fleeting hand touches, we must first look deep within ourselves

“I’m a big fan of just asking questions because that is the way we are most likely to get clear answers,” Kai Cheng advises

“I assure you, you are doing nothing wrong by asking to practice safer sex,” Kai advises

OPINION: George Arison’s tweets are just another reminder: corporations are not our friends

PERSONAL ESSAY: An epic love story between an Iraqi Arab and a Punjabi Sikh

Dating

At 40, I celebrate aging as proof of queer survival

‘Cora Bora’ is a coming-of-age movie for people in their thirties

What ‘Grey’s Anatomy’ taught me about being in a queer relationship

The blurred lines between ‘transamory’ and chasing

Why a lesbian ‘Love Is Blind’ just makes sense

Catfish or cuddle queen? Dream date or heartbreak?

Ask Kai’s greatest hits

‘Two Dykes and a Mic’ podcast hosts talk touring, queer community and letting lesbians laugh

I’ve met someone amazing, but I can’t stand the way he smells. How do I talk to him about it?

My hookup lied to me and exposed me to an STI. Can I ghost him?

My boyfriend can’t accept my body hair. Is it time to break up?

Is Lex abandoning its horniest users?

How can I decolonize my desire?

Forget Sapphic yearning. Just make a move already!

I’m a closeted teen. How do I flirt if I don’t know who’s gay?

I’m not on PrEP. Is it weird to ask for condoms during hook-ups?

Grindr’s new CEO supports ‘some’ of Trump’s policies. Why are we surprised?

All I wanted was to make my family happy, until I found what made me happy