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Love & Sex

My friend has been lying about being poor for years. How can I ever trust them again?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My friend has been lying about being poor for years. How can I ever trust them again?

Kai advises a reader whose friend bought a house with the help of family money—after spending more than a decade claiming to be working class

By Kai Cheng Thom
My trans partner is no longer attracted to me or my gender. What should I do?
Ask Kai: Quickies

My trans partner is no longer attracted to me or my gender. What should I do?

Ask yourself if sexuality plays a primary role in intimacy, or if sexuality can be explored outside the relationship?

By Xtra Video
Is a love that starts out red-hot more likely to be a love that burns out?
Love Like Mine

Is a love that starts out red-hot more likely to be a love that burns out?

When I was ready to dive deeper, she started pulling away. I barely had the skills to handle it

By Alena Papayanis
Am I a bad person for not wanting to talk about my friend’s dysphoria all the time?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Am I a bad person for not wanting to talk about my friend’s dysphoria all the time?

“The mark of a healthy relationship is one that can withstand conflict and challenge, and simultaneously, one where everybody’s boundaries are respected.”

By Kai Cheng Thom
10 same-sex marriage battlegrounds around the globe
Marriage Equality

10 same-sex marriage battlegrounds around the globe

The U.S. Supreme Court may be threatening to reverse progress on LGBTQ2S+ rights, but countries the world over are pushing marriage equality forward

By Rob Salerno
I’m a high femme trans lesbian and I really want to play with other high femme trans lesbians. How?
Ask Kai: Quickies

I’m a high femme trans lesbian and I really want to play with other high femme trans lesbians. How?

What’s important is that we are expressing interest, inviting consent and then we become erotic explorers

By Xtra Video
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I was ready for a long-distance relationship, but I couldn’t live without a queer community that understood me
Love Like Mine

I was ready for a long-distance relationship, but I couldn’t live without a queer community that understood me

My difficulty with coming out of the closet kept me lonely while living in a conservative city in Korea

By Sofie Mikhaylova
Poly activists want Facebook to let users list multiple partners in relationship status
Identity

Poly activists want Facebook to let users list multiple partners in relationship status

Not everyone with more than one partner is in an open relationship, argues OPEN group

By Dika Ofoma
I see myself as different from cis women. Does that make me a ‘bad’ trans woman?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I see myself as different from cis women. Does that make me a ‘bad’ trans woman?

Kai advises a reader that “holding multiple truths is more complex than simply holding all truths to be equal—because not all beliefs are equal in social status and social power”

By Kai Cheng Thom
How do I gain the confidence to use a strap-on?
Ask Kai: Quickies

How do I gain the confidence to use a strap-on?

Give yourself permission to enter the realm of sexuality with an open mind, ready to get messy and make mistakes

By Xtra Video
Is it ever the right choice to ‘cancel’ someone?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Is it ever the right choice to ‘cancel’ someone?

We’re heading into murky ethical territory, advice columnist Kai Cheng Thom cautions. But even in the darkest places, there is hope, healing and an abundance of life, in all its messy glory

By Kai Cheng Thom
As I medically transitioned, my relationship got a whole lot gayer
Love Like Mine

As I medically transitioned, my relationship got a whole lot gayer

Through marriage, pregnancy, birth and transition, my relationship to my partner, a fellow rock climber, kept evolving along with me

By Sage Agee
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Top, bottom, verse or switch? How do I decide?
Ask Kai: Quickies

Top, bottom, verse or switch? How do I decide?

Sexuality is definitely an experiment, but experiment with people not on people

By Xtra Video
I think my friend is misusing words like ‘accountability’ and ‘harm.’ What should I do?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I think my friend is misusing words like ‘accountability’ and ‘harm.’ What should I do?

Kai advises a reader who wants to honour her friend’s boundaries—without sacrificing her own

By Kai Cheng Thom
How do you have group sex that isn’t weird?
Ask Kai: Quickies

How do you have group sex that isn’t weird?

Sex in general can be weird, but a great orgy starts with collective consent and continuous communication

By Xtra Video
I crossed my partner’s sexual boundaries without even realizing it. What does that make me?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I crossed my partner’s sexual boundaries without even realizing it. What does that make me?

“Consent has many dimensions, and it can be really helpful to go into detail about what’s going on in any given interaction”

By Kai Cheng Thom
Going on a sex vacation made me wonder: am I demisexual?
Love & Sex

Going on a sex vacation made me wonder: am I demisexual?

After a breakup, I thought I wanted to dive headfirst into casual sex. But I learned sexuality and desire are rarely static or easily defined

By Bobby Box
Double disclosure: How getting herpes helped me come out as bisexual
Love Like Mine

Double disclosure: How getting herpes helped me come out as bisexual

I’m still afraid of people’s reactions, but I’ve learned to live with the fear

By Cam Smith
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