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Love & Sex

Same-sex couples have less stressful marriages, according to science
Relationships

Same-sex couples have less stressful marriages, according to science

A new study says collaborative stress-management skills are higher in same-sex couples than in different-sex couples

By Maddy Mahoney
I’m not on PrEP. Is it weird to ask for condoms during hook-ups?
Video

I’m not on PrEP. Is it weird to ask for condoms during hook-ups?

“I assure you, you are doing nothing wrong by asking to practice safer sex,” Kai advises

By Kai Cheng Thom, Lito Howse
These are the best sex toys for ‘sides’
Love & Sex

These are the best sex toys for ‘sides’

From vibrators to strokers, these sex toys are perfect for people who don’t want to prioritize penetration during masturbation or partnered play

By Bobby Box
Grindr’s new CEO supports ‘some’ of Trump’s policies. Why are we surprised?
Love & Sex

Grindr’s new CEO supports ‘some’ of Trump’s policies. Why are we surprised?

OPINION: George Arison’s tweets are just another reminder: corporations are not our friends

By Alex V Green
How do my girlfriend and I overcome ‘lesbian bed death’?
Ask Kai: Quickies

How do my girlfriend and I overcome ‘lesbian bed death’?

Spend some time together naked or in a bath without the goal being sex, Kai advises

By Kai Cheng Thom
I want to help queer youth—but I’m afraid of being labelled a “groomer”
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I want to help queer youth—but I’m afraid of being labelled a “groomer”

“Let’s go to war with the heterosexual world. Let’s kill the homophobe in our hearts and trample its grave”

By Kai Cheng Thom
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When is it okay to ask someone with less privilege than you to cut you some slack?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

When is it okay to ask someone with less privilege than you to cut you some slack?

Kai answers a reader whose conflict with a friend is further complicated by race, mental health and privilege

By Kai Cheng Thom
My partner became solo poly without telling me
Ask Kai: Quickies

My partner became solo poly without telling me

“Whenever that kind of news comes as a surprise or comes secondhand or thirdhand, then it is likely to be hurtful,” Kai says

By Corey Misquita, Kai Cheng Thom
All I wanted was to make my family happy, until I found what made me happy 
Love Like Mine

All I wanted was to make my family happy, until I found what made me happy 

PERSONAL ESSAY: An epic love story between an Iraqi Arab and a Punjabi Sikh

By Hasan Namir
I sent some (fully dressed) selfies to a prospective date and they blocked me. What am I missing?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I sent some (fully dressed) selfies to a prospective date and they blocked me. What am I missing?

Kai helps a reader navigate the sometimes complicated world of personal boundaries

By Kai Cheng Thom
This lesbian couple just married in Romania—even though same-sex marriage is illegal
Marriage Equality

This lesbian couple just married in Romania—even though same-sex marriage is illegal

The women were able to sidestep their country’s definition of marriage because one of them had not yet had her gender changed on her official documents

By Ursula Muñoz S.
I have herpes. Do I have to tell every single partner about it?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I have herpes. Do I have to tell every single partner about it?

“The hard-and-fast ethical rules we come up with in conversation often don’t feel as compelling in real life”

By Kai Cheng Thom
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How do I remove shame from sex?
Ask Kai: Quickies

How do I remove shame from sex?

“The more we practice pleasure in a way that is slow enough for us actually to integrate it and really enjoy it without being overwhelmed,” Kai advises, “the more our capacity grows”

By Kai Cheng Thom, Lito Howse
How much space should white-passing people take up in the antiracist movement?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

How much space should white-passing people take up in the antiracist movement?

I told my friend she needed to stop centring herself and step back, and she got upset. Was I being too harsh?

By Kai Cheng Thom
Why I started a digital shrine to Justice Smith and Nic Ashe’s relationship
Identity

Why I started a digital shrine to Justice Smith and Nic Ashe’s relationship

The actor boyfriends are the possibility models I didn’t know I needed

By Mikelle Street
My friend has been lying about being poor for years. How can I ever trust them again?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My friend has been lying about being poor for years. How can I ever trust them again?

Kai advises a reader whose friend bought a house with the help of family money—after spending more than a decade claiming to be working class

By Kai Cheng Thom
My trans partner is no longer attracted to me or my gender. What should I do?
Ask Kai: Quickies

My trans partner is no longer attracted to me or my gender. What should I do?

Ask yourself if sexuality plays a primary role in intimacy, or if sexuality can be explored outside the relationship?

By Xtra Video
Is a love that starts out red-hot more likely to be a love that burns out?
Love Like Mine

Is a love that starts out red-hot more likely to be a love that burns out?

When I was ready to dive deeper, she started pulling away. I barely had the skills to handle it

By Alena Papayanis
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