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Advice

Will my partner still find me attractive if I transition?
Ask Kai: Quickies

Will my partner still find me attractive if I transition?

Kai says “this is not usually about the trans person’s beauty because trans people are gorgeous and sexy”

By Xtra Video
My girlfriend won’t take COVID-19 seriously. What should I do?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My girlfriend won’t take COVID-19 seriously. What should I do?

Kai weighs in on what to do when your partner is willing to take far more risks than you are

By Kai Cheng Thom
My partner is well endowed. What can we do to make sex less painful?
Ask Kai: Quickies

My partner is well endowed. What can we do to make sex less painful?

The key is to go slow and warm up!

By Xtra Video
I’m genuinely falling for my new girlfriend—so why can’t I enjoy having sex with her?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m genuinely falling for my new girlfriend—so why can’t I enjoy having sex with her?

A newly-out lesbian questions why she freezes whenever things heat up between her and her partner

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’m a woman in a relationship with a man. How can I explore my newfound bisexuality?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m a woman in a relationship with a man. How can I explore my newfound bisexuality?

Kai advises a reader who recently came out that there are many ways to build queer community

By Kai Cheng Thom
My partner and I are vaccinated, but my partner’s parents are not
Ask Kai: Quickies

My partner and I are vaccinated, but my partner’s parents are not

With the Omicron variant and rising Covid-19 cases, should we be cautious about spending the holidays with family members who are unvaccinated?

By Xtra Video
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How can I support my friend through addiction without breaking my boundaries?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

How can I support my friend through addiction without breaking my boundaries?

When navigating a loved one’s addiction, giving help that harms us is not really helping anyone.

By Kai Cheng Thom
‘May-December’ age gaps and queer romances
Ask Kai: Quickies

‘May-December’ age gaps and queer romances

I’m 32 years old and my partner is 21 years old. Is it still okay to date?

By Xtra Video
Should I start dating someone who is asexual even though I want to lose my virginity?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Should I start dating someone who is asexual even though I want to lose my virginity?

When it comes to setting expectations between two people with conflicting desires, it’s best not to try to figure out everything at once

By Kai Cheng Thom
My partner has depression and requires a lot of care. How can I make sure I’m also getting my needs met?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My partner has depression and requires a lot of care. How can I make sure I’m also getting my needs met?

“Care so often needs to flow in a circle. Sometimes the best way to care for others is to care for ourselves”

By Kai Cheng Thom
Should I tell my friend I have feelings for them, even though they’re in a relationship?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Should I tell my friend I have feelings for them, even though they’re in a relationship?

“What if clear and honest expressions of desire, messy as they are, were seen as opportunities for growth, change and deepened intimacy?”

By Kai Cheng Thom
How do I tell someone who has feelings for me that I just want casual sex?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

How do I tell someone who has feelings for me that I just want casual sex?

Kai gives dating advice to a lesbian looking for no-strings-attached sex

By Kai Cheng Thom
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Big Freedia’s latest tracks have us bouncing all over the place
Queer Culture Catch-Up

Big Freedia’s latest tracks have us bouncing all over the place

Our recommendations for what’s up and what’s on, beginning Sept. 23

By S. Bear Bergman
I came out as gay to my wife. Now she and my son hate me. What can I do?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I came out as gay to my wife. Now she and my son hate me. What can I do?

Kai affirms a reader’s right to live in his truth as a gay person, and advises him on how he might build bridges with his family 

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’m unhappy in my relationship and my partner is struggling. How can I possibly leave them?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m unhappy in my relationship and my partner is struggling. How can I possibly leave them?

Kai explains how to create an ethical and caring exit plan for a partnership that is no longer working

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’m a trans man attracted to men—but how do I get over my fear of them?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m a trans man attracted to men—but how do I get over my fear of them?

Kai advises a trans man on how to embrace his masculinity and make space for himself in cis, gay culture

By Kai Cheng Thom
Communing butch voices, dance documentaries and writers on writing
Queer Culture Catch-Up

Communing butch voices, dance documentaries and writers on writing

Our recommendations for what’s up and what’s on, beginning Aug. 12

By S. Bear Bergman
Struggling with re-entry anxiety? You’re not alone
Mental Health

Struggling with re-entry anxiety? You’re not alone

Life coach and spiritual seeker Jordan Bach offers tips to help us prepare for post-pandemic life

By Jumol Royes
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