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Kai suggests ways an isolated gay man can live out his stories of need and pain

Kai Cheng Thom responds to an online sex worker struggling to set relationship boundaries

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Advice

How to sext safely

I’m friends with my ex, but I still have feelings for them. How can I move on?

Decoding vaginismus

People never seem to need me as much as I do them. Am I an emotional vampire?

I told my boyfriend he can’t watch porn. Am I too controlling?

My boyfriend enjoys his job as an online sex worker, but I’m worried about his safety. Is my anxiety justified?

I’m a young lesbian who wants to play the field. Does that make me a fuckboi?

I’m an old, out and proud lesbian. Am I transphobic if I don’t want to have sex with trans women?

We’re a May-December gay couple and our friends think our relationship is problematic and abusive. Are they right?

Is it safe to tuck?

I think I’m asexual but I’m into kinky porn, which my friends say is problematic. Am I a bad person?

Do glory holes really prevent the spread of COVID-19?

My genital warts returned and it’s ruined my self-esteem and intimacy with my partner. How do I forgive myself?

I’m a gay sex worker and COVID-19 has affected my income. My friends say I should look for a ‘safer’ job. What should I do?

Quarantining with my partner made me realize I want to break up. Should I leave or try to save this?

I’m a cis guy looking to date a trans woman. How do I start?

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You won’t stop looking-up whether it’s normal to pee after masturbating, so we brought the damn doctor back