How do I hire a sex worker?

The business of buying and selling skilled, ethical sexual labour is more complex than it ought to be

By Kai Cheng Thom

Sex

What safer sex looks like in a post-pandemic world wildly in flux

Can we really have a “hot vax summer”?

By Bobby Box

The Xtra Long Read

Vaxxed, waxed and ready to travel?

From Berlin to Bangkok, global queer tourism destinations are gearing up to welcome you back. But visitors should expect surprises

By Loren Christie

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I survived an abusive relationship. How can I feel comfortable to start dating again?

Kai offers advice on how to re-engage with dating and sex after a traumatic partnership

By Kai Cheng Thom

Your First Time

Gay beach virgin? New to nudity? Don’t be nervous. Here’s everything you need to know about LGBTQ2S+ beach culture

From Rio to Mykonos, insiders share tips and tricks to have the time of your life queering it up on the sand

By Paul Gallant

Ask an Expert

How to get started with dominance and submission

Rope bondage expert Midori on playful, lighthearted, compassionate kink

By Andy Bandyopadhyay

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I want more sex than my partner does. How do I get my needs met without pushing her boundaries?

Meeting differing sexual needs and desires might be hard, Kai says, but there are practically infinite ways of giving and receiving pleasure

By Kai Cheng Thom

Mental Health

How to provide mental health support, even when you can’t be there in person

The COVID-19 pandemic has made face-to-face caregiving more difficult. Here are 6 ways we can support each other from afar

By Logan Summer

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Why is it so hard to make close friends as an adult?

Kai advises a reader on how to deepen bonds with acquaintances and build their own “Scooby gang”

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

What can I do to mend the damage I caused to my former partner?

Transformative justice and making amends doesn’t always mean staying close

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Am I bi, pan, asexual, just plain straight or maybe even gay?

Kai counsels a questioning Gen Z reader riding a “sexual rollercoaster”

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Am I gaslighting my partner?

A confused reader asks Kai about the distinction between having a different memory and deliberately distorting someone’s reality

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m afraid my family will reject me for being non-binary. How do I come out to them?

Kai gives guidance to a newly-out non-binary person navigating how to be open with the people they love

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m imperfect, but I’m trying to make change. How do I stop activists from dragging me?

Kai advises a so-called “sellout” on how to navigate conflict and build boundaries within her community

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

As an older trans man, do I have anything to offer the younger generation?

Kai guides an elder on how to heal trauma and close the queer generation gap

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Is it okay to be angry when people don’t want to have sex with me?

Kai encourages a gay Asian man to celebrate his desirability and sexuality despite racism in the gay dating scene

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask an Expert

How to be a better hookup

Sex educator Allison Moon teaches all of us how to be kinder, more playful, more ethical sluts

By Andy Bandyopadhyay

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Am I being too picky in my disdain for online dating?

Kai counsels a discerning demisexual on making virtual romantic connections in a pandemic era

By Kai Cheng Thom