‘May-December’ age gaps and queer romances

I’m 32 years old and my partner is 21 years old. Is it still okay to date?

“I think it’s fair to say that any situation in which someone has a significant power differential is inherently risky. And age is usually an inherent power differential,” Kai Cheng Thom says. “It’s important for the older person in the relationship to think about consent, safety and to hold more of that responsibility.”

It’s our latest in the video series “Ask Kai: Quick Tips for the Apocalypse,” offering relationship advice for those in a hurry.

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