My partner is well endowed. What can we do to make sex less painful?

The key is to go slow and warm up!

“I don’t recommend the ‘jamming and we’ll get over it’ technique. The thing to do is to start slowly,” Kai Cheng Thom says. “Most of all, warm up and give pleasure to the receiving body part because it’s pleasure that will open things up, pleasure that will relax us, pleasure that will loosen any sphincters or muscle fibres that might want to be loosened.”It’s our latest in the video series “Ask Kai: Quick Tips for the Apocalypse,” offering relationship advice for those in a hurry.

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