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Love & Sex

Grindr disappears from Apple’s App Store in China amid anti-LGBTQ+ crackdown
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Grindr disappears from Apple’s App Store in China amid anti-LGBTQ+ crackdown

The queer hookup app was pulled from mobile download stores days ahead of the Beijing Winter Olympics

By V.S. Wells
I’m just not that into the guy I’m seeing. Can I ghost him?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m just not that into the guy I’m seeing. Can I ghost him?

“Breaking up is nearly always unpleasant. If you have to be a villain—temporarily!—how can you play that role with the greatest possible integrity and kindness?” 

By Kai Cheng Thom
Will my partner still find me attractive if I transition?
Ask Kai: Quickies

Will my partner still find me attractive if I transition?

Kai says “this is not usually about the trans person’s beauty because trans people are gorgeous and sexy”

By Xtra Video
What you need to know about non-monogamy and mental health
Ask an Expert

What you need to know about non-monogamy and mental health

Non-monogamous relationships can come with a set of unique challenges. Here’s how to keep your mental health—and your partnerships—strong

By Diamond Yao
My girlfriend won’t take COVID-19 seriously. What should I do?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My girlfriend won’t take COVID-19 seriously. What should I do?

Kai weighs in on what to do when your partner is willing to take far more risks than you are

By Kai Cheng Thom
My partner is well endowed. What can we do to make sex less painful?
Ask Kai: Quickies

My partner is well endowed. What can we do to make sex less painful?

The key is to go slow and warm up!

By Xtra Video
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I’m genuinely falling for my new girlfriend—so why can’t I enjoy having sex with her?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m genuinely falling for my new girlfriend—so why can’t I enjoy having sex with her?

A newly-out lesbian questions why she freezes whenever things heat up between her and her partner

By Kai Cheng Thom
The year in love and sex
Rainbow Rewind 2021

The year in love and sex

6 stories that defined the way we loved and lusted in 2021

By Ziya Jones
I’m a woman in a relationship with a man. How can I explore my newfound bisexuality?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m a woman in a relationship with a man. How can I explore my newfound bisexuality?

Kai advises a reader who recently came out that there are many ways to build queer community

By Kai Cheng Thom
Navigating love and life with compassion and grace
Books

Navigating love and life with compassion and grace

A conversation with S. Bear Bergman on his new illustrated advice book, “Special Topics in Being a Human”

By Andy Bandyopadhyay
What does it mean to be a dad, anyway?
Identity

What does it mean to be a dad, anyway?

We spend so much time establishing that transmasculine people can be fathers that we almost never discuss what kind of fathers they might be

By Jude Ellison S. Doyle
My partner and I are vaccinated, but my partner’s parents are not
Ask Kai: Quickies

My partner and I are vaccinated, but my partner’s parents are not

With the Omicron variant and rising Covid-19 cases, should we be cautious about spending the holidays with family members who are unvaccinated?

By Xtra Video
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How can I support my friend through addiction without breaking my boundaries?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

How can I support my friend through addiction without breaking my boundaries?

When navigating a loved one’s addiction, giving help that harms us is not really helping anyone.

By Kai Cheng Thom
‘May-December’ age gaps and queer romances
Ask Kai: Quickies

‘May-December’ age gaps and queer romances

I’m 32 years old and my partner is 21 years old. Is it still okay to date?

By Xtra Video
Overcoming fatphobia takes hard work
Health

Overcoming fatphobia takes hard work

OPINION: But the rewards are worth it, especially the sex—wet, filthy, kinky sex where bellies slap and flesh wobbles in shameless ecstasy

By Quenby
Should I start dating someone who is asexual even though I want to lose my virginity?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Should I start dating someone who is asexual even though I want to lose my virginity?

When it comes to setting expectations between two people with conflicting desires, it’s best not to try to figure out everything at once

By Kai Cheng Thom
My dating app hookup catfished me
Ask Kai: Quickies

My dating app hookup catfished me

A viewer wants to ask Kai, “Am I allowed to send them home?”

By Xtra Video
My partner has depression and requires a lot of care. How can I make sure I’m also getting my needs met?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My partner has depression and requires a lot of care. How can I make sure I’m also getting my needs met?

“Care so often needs to flow in a circle. Sometimes the best way to care for others is to care for ourselves”

By Kai Cheng Thom
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