“We’re talking about consensual play. We’re talking about looking for partners who might already kind of be into that. And so when we’re asking (about kinks)… what we’re really looking for is someone who can understand that this is in the realm of fantasy,” says Kai. “And being aroused by fantasy is pretty different from being aroused by reality.”
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