When it comes to kinky sex, it’s best to test the waters first

“It’s important to recognize that our sexual preferences don’t emerge from a vacuum”

For queer and trans readers, erotica can provide a roadmap for realizing our truest selves

Shower every love in your life with gifts galore this Valentine’s Day

“Always look for the hallmarks of consent,” Kai says

The queer hookup app was pulled from mobile download stores days ahead of the Beijing Winter Olympics

“Breaking up is nearly always unpleasant. If you have to be a villain—temporarily!—how can you play that role with the greatest possible integrity and kindness?”

Kai says “this is not usually about the trans person’s beauty because trans people are gorgeous and sexy”

Non-monogamous relationships can come with a set of unique challenges. Here’s how to keep your mental health—and your partnerships—strong

Kai weighs in on what to do when your partner is willing to take far more risks than you are

The key is to go slow and warm up!

A newly-out lesbian questions why she freezes whenever things heat up between her and her partner

6 stories that defined the way we loved and lusted in 2021

Kai advises a reader who recently came out that there are many ways to build queer community

A conversation with S. Bear Bergman on his new illustrated advice book, “Special Topics in Being a Human”

We spend so much time establishing that transmasculine people can be fathers that we almost never discuss what kind of fathers they might be

With the Omicron variant and rising Covid-19 cases, should we be cautious about spending the holidays with family members who are unvaccinated?

When navigating a loved one’s addiction, giving help that harms us is not really helping anyone.

Love & Sex

How can I ask someone to fulfill my mommy fantasy?

The guy I’m seeing says he likes trans women, but won’t go down on them. Should I ditch him?

How a story about spanking helped me find myself

Valentine’s Day gifts for every queer in your life

How can I start sexting with someone without being presumptuous or off-putting?

Grindr disappears from Apple’s App Store in China amid anti-LGBTQ+ crackdown

I’m just not that into the guy I’m seeing. Can I ghost him?

Will my partner still find me attractive if I transition?

What you need to know about non-monogamy and mental health

My girlfriend won’t take COVID-19 seriously. What should I do?

My partner is well endowed. What can we do to make sex less painful?

I’m genuinely falling for my new girlfriend—so why can’t I enjoy having sex with her?

The year in love and sex

I’m a woman in a relationship with a man. How can I explore my newfound bisexuality?

Navigating love and life with compassion and grace

What does it mean to be a dad, anyway?

My partner and I are vaccinated, but my partner’s parents are not

How can I support my friend through addiction without breaking my boundaries?