Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Kai gives dating advice to a lesbian looking for no-strings-attached sex

Kai affirms a reader’s right to live in his truth as a gay person, and advises him on how he might build bridges with his family 

Kai explains how to create an ethical and caring exit plan for a partnership that is no longer working

Kai advises a trans man on how to embrace his masculinity and make space for himself in cis, gay culture

Meeting differing sexual needs and desires might be hard, Kai says, but there are practically infinite ways of giving and receiving pleasure

Kai advises a reader on how to deepen bonds with acquaintances and build their own “Scooby gang” 

Transformative justice and making amends doesn’t always mean staying close

Kai counsels a questioning Gen Z reader riding a “sexual rollercoaster” 

A confused reader asks Kai about the distinction between having a different memory and deliberately distorting someone’s reality