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Relationships

My ex-roommate says I’m abusive for leaving my dirty dishes in the sink. Do I owe them accountability?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My ex-roommate says I’m abusive for leaving my dirty dishes in the sink. Do I owe them accountability?

Non-abusive conflict can still lead to harm. But, Kai says, “taking accountability is not the same thing as giving up your truth”

By Kai Cheng Thom
Valentine’s Day gifts for every queer in your life
Love & Sex

Valentine’s Day gifts for every queer in your life

Shower every love in your life with gifts galore this Valentine’s Day

By S. Bear Bergman
What you need to know about non-monogamy and mental health
Ask an Expert

What you need to know about non-monogamy and mental health

Non-monogamous relationships can come with a set of unique challenges. Here’s how to keep your mental health—and your partnerships—strong

By Diamond Yao
My girlfriend won’t take COVID-19 seriously. What should I do?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My girlfriend won’t take COVID-19 seriously. What should I do?

Kai weighs in on what to do when your partner is willing to take far more risks than you are

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’m genuinely falling for my new girlfriend—so why can’t I enjoy having sex with her?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m genuinely falling for my new girlfriend—so why can’t I enjoy having sex with her?

A newly-out lesbian questions why she freezes whenever things heat up between her and her partner

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’m a woman in a relationship with a man. How can I explore my newfound bisexuality?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m a woman in a relationship with a man. How can I explore my newfound bisexuality?

Kai advises a reader who recently came out that there are many ways to build queer community

By Kai Cheng Thom
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What does it mean to be a dad, anyway?
Identity

What does it mean to be a dad, anyway?

We spend so much time establishing that transmasculine people can be fathers that we almost never discuss what kind of fathers they might be

By Jude Ellison S. Doyle
My partner and I are vaccinated, but my partner’s parents are not
Ask Kai: Quickies

My partner and I are vaccinated, but my partner’s parents are not

With the Omicron variant and rising Covid-19 cases, should we be cautious about spending the holidays with family members who are unvaccinated?

By Xtra Video
How can I support my friend through addiction without breaking my boundaries?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

How can I support my friend through addiction without breaking my boundaries?

When navigating a loved one’s addiction, giving help that harms us is not really helping anyone.

By Kai Cheng Thom
‘May-December’ age gaps and queer romances
Ask Kai: Quickies

‘May-December’ age gaps and queer romances

I’m 32 years old and my partner is 21 years old. Is it still okay to date?

By Xtra Video
My partner has depression and requires a lot of care. How can I make sure I’m also getting my needs met?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My partner has depression and requires a lot of care. How can I make sure I’m also getting my needs met?

“Care so often needs to flow in a circle. Sometimes the best way to care for others is to care for ourselves”

By Kai Cheng Thom
Should I tell my friend I have feelings for them, even though they’re in a relationship?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Should I tell my friend I have feelings for them, even though they’re in a relationship?

“What if clear and honest expressions of desire, messy as they are, were seen as opportunities for growth, change and deepened intimacy?”

By Kai Cheng Thom
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How can I support my bisexual partner?
Ask Kai: Quickies

How can I support my bisexual partner?

Just remember, you’re in it together

By Xtra Video
Despite lockdowns, my queer friend group grew during COVID-19
Love & Sex

Despite lockdowns, my queer friend group grew during COVID-19

I needed new queers in my life, and against the odds of the pandemic, I found them in abundance

By Russ Martin
10 queer books we’re absolutely and completely loving this summer
Books

10 queer books we’re absolutely and completely loving this summer

Need a beach read? We revisit some of the best works of fiction and non-fiction our writers have picked up so far this year

By Paul Gallant
A self-described ‘polyamorous slut’ asks: Has dating changed forever?
Love & Sex

A self-described ‘polyamorous slut’ asks: Has dating changed forever?

What queering public spaces with anxious, hopeful bodies might look like post-lockdown

By Quenby
The physics of a failed relationship
Love Like Mine

The physics of a failed relationship

We were like two subatomic particles moving in space, never really able to be in the same place or time

By Alena Papayanis
The amazing aunties and uncles of Desi Rainbow
Relationships

The amazing aunties and uncles of Desi Rainbow

Why this support network for South Asian families took off last year during the pandemic

By Krishna Rau
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