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My job gives me stability, but it clashes with my politics. Should I quit?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My job gives me stability, but it clashes with my politics. Should I quit?

Kai advises a reader who feels like they’re selling their soul

By Kai Cheng Thom
Republicans are coming for bodily autonomy. Why won’t Democrats take a stand?
Health

Republicans are coming for bodily autonomy. Why won’t Democrats take a stand?

OPINION: The Respect for Marriage Act passed without a hitch—but Republicans still seek to control queer and trans bodies at all costs 

By Jude Ellison S. Doyle
LGBTQ2S+ people disproportionately experience intimate partner violence
Relationships

LGBTQ2S+ people disproportionately experience intimate partner violence

New study examines the nature of intimate partner violence in queer and trans communities

By Emma Bainbridge
My bosses keep misgendering my co-worker. Should I say something?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My bosses keep misgendering my co-worker. Should I say something?

“It takes a strong soul to correct a person in a position of power—but this is what it means to stand up to injustice.”

By Kai Cheng Thom
U.S. Senate to hold final vote on Respect for Marriage Act on Nov. 28, helping protect same-sex couples
Politics

U.S. Senate to hold final vote on Respect for Marriage Act on Nov. 28, helping protect same-sex couples

Queer Americans are celebrating the culmination of a decade-long campaign to protect same-sex couples from one of the country’s most homophobic federal laws

By Rob Salerno
My ex says I harmed them. How can I disagree without invalidating their experience?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My ex says I harmed them. How can I disagree without invalidating their experience?

A reader navigates wanting to challenge a previous partner’s version of events—without turning the conflict into a “he said, she said” situation

By Kai Cheng Thom
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Same-sex couples have less stressful marriages, according to science
Relationships

Same-sex couples have less stressful marriages, according to science

A new study says collaborative stress-management skills are higher in same-sex couples than in different-sex couples

By Maddy Mahoney
I want to help queer youth—but I’m afraid of being labelled a “groomer”
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I want to help queer youth—but I’m afraid of being labelled a “groomer”

“Let’s go to war with the heterosexual world. Let’s kill the homophobe in our hearts and trample its grave”

By Kai Cheng Thom
When is it okay to ask someone with less privilege than you to cut you some slack?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

When is it okay to ask someone with less privilege than you to cut you some slack?

Kai answers a reader whose conflict with a friend is further complicated by race, mental health and privilege

By Kai Cheng Thom
My partner became solo poly without telling me
Ask Kai: Quickies

My partner became solo poly without telling me

“Whenever that kind of news comes as a surprise or comes secondhand or thirdhand, then it is likely to be hurtful,” Kai says

By Corey Misquita, Kai Cheng Thom
All I wanted was to make my family happy, until I found what made me happy 
Love Like Mine

All I wanted was to make my family happy, until I found what made me happy 

PERSONAL ESSAY: An epic love story between an Iraqi Arab and a Punjabi Sikh

By Hasan Namir
How much space should white-passing people take up in the antiracist movement?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

How much space should white-passing people take up in the antiracist movement?

I told my friend she needed to stop centring herself and step back, and she got upset. Was I being too harsh?

By Kai Cheng Thom
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My friend has been lying about being poor for years. How can I ever trust them again?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My friend has been lying about being poor for years. How can I ever trust them again?

Kai advises a reader whose friend bought a house with the help of family money—after spending more than a decade claiming to be working class

By Kai Cheng Thom
Is a love that starts out red-hot more likely to be a love that burns out?
Love Like Mine

Is a love that starts out red-hot more likely to be a love that burns out?

When I was ready to dive deeper, she started pulling away. I barely had the skills to handle it

By Alena Papayanis
Am I a bad person for not wanting to talk about my friend’s dysphoria all the time?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Am I a bad person for not wanting to talk about my friend’s dysphoria all the time?

“The mark of a healthy relationship is one that can withstand conflict and challenge, and simultaneously, one where everybody’s boundaries are respected.”

By Kai Cheng Thom
I was ready for a long-distance relationship, but I couldn’t live without a queer community that understood me
Love Like Mine

I was ready for a long-distance relationship, but I couldn’t live without a queer community that understood me

My difficulty with coming out of the closet kept me lonely while living in a conservative city in Korea

By Sofie Mikhaylova
Is it ever the right choice to ‘cancel’ someone?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Is it ever the right choice to ‘cancel’ someone?

We’re heading into murky ethical territory, advice columnist Kai Cheng Thom cautions. But even in the darkest places, there is hope, healing and an abundance of life, in all its messy glory

By Kai Cheng Thom
As I medically transitioned, my relationship got a whole lot gayer
Love Like Mine

As I medically transitioned, my relationship got a whole lot gayer

Through marriage, pregnancy, birth and transition, my relationship to my partner, a fellow rock climber, kept evolving along with me

By Sage Agee
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