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Relationships

My straight boyfriend gave me a queer pandemic haircut
Love Like Mine

My straight boyfriend gave me a queer pandemic haircut

As he sawed through my thick mane, we invited queerness into the bathroom—and into our relationship

By Kate Raphael
I’m imperfect, but I’m trying to make change. How do I stop activists from dragging me?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m imperfect, but I’m trying to make change. How do I stop activists from dragging me?

Kai advises a so-called “sellout” on how to navigate conflict and build boundaries within her community

By Kai Cheng Thom
Chosen family versus COVID-19
Health

Chosen family versus COVID-19

The death of a dear friend inspires a writer to ask: Who gets to make decisions about your health care if you’re incapacitated?

By Nancy Irwin
A non-binary writer and editor banished from London starts an online zine
Creating Community

A non-binary writer and editor banished from London starts an online zine

Trapped in their parents’ house in Bristol, Sam Moore has found a whole new community of queer writers and editors

By Sam Moore
Whether epic or humdrum, ‘Gay Bar’ chases the elusive possibility of queer social spaces
Books

Whether epic or humdrum, ‘Gay Bar’ chases the elusive possibility of queer social spaces

U.K. writer Jeremy Atherton Lin’s new book chronicles the history of the gay bars he’s visited—and his adventures inside them

By Paul Gallant
A queer settler communications pro finds connection in another world
Creating Community

A queer settler communications pro finds connection in another world

She and a group of friends have thoroughly queered “Dungeons and Dragons”

By Meg Shannon
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A bisexual writer in Ottawa fights isolation one focaccia recipe at a time
Creating Community

A bisexual writer in Ottawa fights isolation one focaccia recipe at a time

Alanna Why’s group chat offers practical advice, new connections and healthy servings of gossip

By Alanna Why
The journey to myself
Love Like Mine

The journey to myself

All it took was one phone call to start a process of growth, healing, learning and unlearning 

By Samantha Peters
A very queer guide to Valentine’s Day 2021
Love & Sex

A very queer guide to Valentine’s Day 2021

Queer the saccharine Hallmark holiday with gifts for your friends, lovers, chosen family and more!

By S. Bear Bergman
My best friend is hooking up with my worst enemies. What do I do?
Ask Kai: Quickies

My best friend is hooking up with my worst enemies. What do I do?

It’s going to get messy

By Xtra Video
My partner and I have loud fights that a friend of mine thinks might be abusive. Is she right? Is yelling the same as abuse?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My partner and I have loud fights that a friend of mine thinks might be abusive. Is she right? Is yelling the same as abuse?

Kai on the difference between conflict and abuse—and the value of healthy anger 

By Kai Cheng Thom
The ongoing struggle for racial justice forced me to drop my racist ex
Love Like Mine

The ongoing struggle for racial justice forced me to drop my racist ex

Part of being an ally is knowing when to leave a toxic situation

By Omar Taleb
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I’m a lesbian and not into relationships. Is it harsh to tell someone I’m just interested in sex?
Ask Kai: Quickies

I’m a lesbian and not into relationships. Is it harsh to tell someone I’m just interested in sex?

Kai on how to talk about hookups

By Xtra Video
I’m friends with my ex, but I still have feelings for them. How can I move on?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m friends with my ex, but I still have feelings for them. How can I move on?

Kai Cheng Thom offers rituals to heal our grieving hearts and release our unrequited loves

By Kai Cheng Thom
4 queer and trans happenings to wind you up or down this week
Culture

4 queer and trans happenings to wind you up or down this week

What to watch, read, listen to or look at beginning Jan. 7

By Sarah Taher
People never seem to need me as much as I do them. Am I an emotional vampire?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

People never seem to need me as much as I do them. Am I an emotional vampire?

Kai suggests ways an isolated gay man can live out his stories of need and pain

By Kai Cheng Thom
‘Sweeter than fiction:’ How Taylor Swift led me to my boyfriend
Love Like Mine

‘Sweeter than fiction:’ How Taylor Swift led me to my boyfriend

I knew I wanted to explore every facet of love that I could—the kinds that Taylor Swift sings about

By Brandon Trush
‘What will you do if your kids grow up to be straight?’
Books

‘What will you do if your kids grow up to be straight?’

In her new memoir, author Jane Byers jostles with the realities of queer parenting while adopting her twins

By Jane Byers
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