Kai on how to talk about hookups

Kai Cheng Thom offers rituals to heal our grieving hearts and release our unrequited loves

What to watch, read, listen to or look at beginning Jan. 7

Kai suggests ways an isolated gay man can live out his stories of need and pain

I knew I wanted to explore every facet of love that I could—the kinds that Taylor Swift sings about

In her new memoir, author Jane Byers jostles with the realities of queer parenting while adopting her twins

A coming-out story and a holiday rom-com formula shouldn’t work together—but they do

Kai Cheng Thom responds to an online sex worker struggling to set relationship boundaries

Living in the swing state of Pennsylvania, Jonathon Wonders and Jason Melcher tied the knot ahead of election results

For the first time in my life, I wanted someone and felt wanted in return. I had never known what that felt like

Here’s some very practical advice on how to get started from someone who knows

In my queer household, we’ve avoided the unequal gendered division of labour, but I still feel like a failure as a mother—and failed by a system that neglects the most vulnerable

Relationships

I’m a lesbian and not into relationships. Is it harsh to tell someone I’m just interested in sex?

I’m friends with my ex, but I still have feelings for them. How can I move on?

4 queer and trans happenings to wind you up or down this week

People never seem to need me as much as I do them. Am I an emotional vampire?

‘Sweeter than fiction:’ How Taylor Swift led me to my boyfriend

‘What will you do if your kids grow up to be straight?’

‘Happiest Season’ is the cheesy Christmas movie we deserve

I told my boyfriend he can’t watch porn. Am I too controlling?

I live alone, I’m single and I’m starved for physical touch. How can I be intimate with others right now and still stay safe?

This gay couple rushed to marry before a possible Trump re-election

My boyfriend enjoys his job as an online sex worker, but I’m worried about his safety. Is my anxiety justified?

I’m a young lesbian who wants to play the field. Does that make me a fuckboi?

I stopped lying to myself, thanks to a stranger at a bar in Guatemala

I think my straight friend might actually be gay. Should I encourage him to come out?

7 steps to open up your relationship

I’m an old, out and proud lesbian. Am I transphobic if I don’t want to have sex with trans women?

My girlfriend hates using dental dams. Should we break up?

Pandemic parenting in a two-mom family means twice the maternal guilt