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Dating

My dating app hookup catfished me
Ask Kai: Quickies

My dating app hookup catfished me

A viewer wants to ask Kai, “Am I allowed to send them home?”

By Xtra Video
My partner has depression and requires a lot of care. How can I make sure I’m also getting my needs met?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My partner has depression and requires a lot of care. How can I make sure I’m also getting my needs met?

“Care so often needs to flow in a circle. Sometimes the best way to care for others is to care for ourselves”

By Kai Cheng Thom
Should I tell my friend I have feelings for them, even though they’re in a relationship?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Should I tell my friend I have feelings for them, even though they’re in a relationship?

“What if clear and honest expressions of desire, messy as they are, were seen as opportunities for growth, change and deepened intimacy?”

By Kai Cheng Thom
Love at first lust
Love Like Mine

Love at first lust

A young writer explores a lasting love denied… or is that deferred?

By Jamie Valentino
What can queers learn about ourselves by conversing with the past?
Books

What can queers learn about ourselves by conversing with the past?

Comedian Tricia Black interviews writer Brian Francis about his hilarious and touching new memoir

By Tricia Black
10 queer books we’re absolutely and completely loving this summer
Books

10 queer books we’re absolutely and completely loving this summer

Need a beach read? We revisit some of the best works of fiction and non-fiction our writers have picked up so far this year

By Paul Gallant
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What safer sex looks like in a post-pandemic world wildly in flux
Sex

What safer sex looks like in a post-pandemic world wildly in flux

Can we really have a “hot vax summer”?

By Bobby Box
A self-described ‘polyamorous slut’ asks: Has dating changed forever?
Love & Sex

A self-described ‘polyamorous slut’ asks: Has dating changed forever?

What queering public spaces with anxious, hopeful bodies might look like post-lockdown

By Quenby
The physics of a failed relationship
Love Like Mine

The physics of a failed relationship

We were like two subatomic particles moving in space, never really able to be in the same place or time

By Alena Papayanis
The queer dating shows that will inspire your hot vax summer
TV & Film

The queer dating shows that will inspire your hot vax summer

Whether it’s “Are You the One?” or the new bisexual “Bachelorette,” one thing we know for sure: When reality TV goes queer, it gets messy

By Mel Woods
Topline: Who will you be as the world opens up?
Xtra Weekly

Topline: Who will you be as the world opens up?

Whether it’s a new name, new pronouns or a new relationship, many queer folks have changed a lot since the start of the pandemic

By Mel Woods
My straight boyfriend gave me a queer pandemic haircut
Love Like Mine

My straight boyfriend gave me a queer pandemic haircut

As he sawed through my thick mane, we invited queerness into the bathroom—and into our relationship

By Kate Raphael
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Whether epic or humdrum, ‘Gay Bar’ chases the elusive possibility of queer social spaces
Books

Whether epic or humdrum, ‘Gay Bar’ chases the elusive possibility of queer social spaces

U.K. writer Jeremy Atherton Lin’s new book chronicles the history of the gay bars he’s visited—and his adventures inside them

By Paul Gallant
How to be a better hookup
Ask an Expert

How to be a better hookup

Sex educator Allison Moon teaches all of us how to be kinder, more playful, more ethical sluts

By Andy Bandyopadhyay
The journey to myself
Love Like Mine

The journey to myself

All it took was one phone call to start a process of growth, healing, learning and unlearning 

By Samantha Peters
Am I being too picky in my disdain for online dating?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Am I being too picky in my disdain for online dating?

Kai counsels a discerning demisexual on making virtual romantic connections in a pandemic era

By Kai Cheng Thom
The ongoing struggle for racial justice forced me to drop my racist ex
Love Like Mine

The ongoing struggle for racial justice forced me to drop my racist ex

Part of being an ally is knowing when to leave a toxic situation

By Omar Taleb
I’m a lesbian and not into relationships. Is it harsh to tell someone I’m just interested in sex?
Ask Kai: Quickies

I’m a lesbian and not into relationships. Is it harsh to tell someone I’m just interested in sex?

Kai on how to talk about hookups

By Xtra Video
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