Is Lex abandoning its horniest users?

OPINION: As the app shifts its focus from fisting to friendship, those who initially used the platform for queer romance and sex are wondering if they still belong

By Noelle Perdue

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

How can I decolonize my desire?

I’ve been taught all my life to prioritize white beauty standards and dismiss other BIPOC guys. How can I reclaim my sexuality?

By Kai Cheng Thom

Dating

Forget Sapphic yearning. Just make a move already!

But before we can get past intense eye contact and fleeting hand touches, we must first look deep within ourselves

By Cassandra Kislenko

Ask Kai: Quickies

I’m a closeted teen. How do I flirt if I don’t know who’s gay?

“I’m a big fan of just asking questions because that is the way we are most likely to get clear answers,” Kai Cheng advises

By Kai Cheng Thom, Lito Howse

Video

I’m not on PrEP. Is it weird to ask for condoms during hook-ups?

“I assure you, you are doing nothing wrong by asking to practice safer sex,” Kai advises

By Kai Cheng Thom, Lito Howse

Love & Sex

Grindr’s new CEO supports ‘some’ of Trump’s policies. Why are we surprised?

OPINION: George Arison’s tweets are just another reminder: corporations are not our friends

By Alex V Green

Love Like Mine

All I wanted was to make my family happy, until I found what made me happy

PERSONAL ESSAY: An epic love story between an Iraqi Arab and a Punjabi Sikh

By Hasan Namir

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I sent some (fully dressed) selfies to a prospective date and they blocked me. What am I missing?

Kai helps a reader navigate the sometimes complicated world of personal boundaries

By Kai Cheng Thom

Love Like Mine

Is a love that starts out red-hot more likely to be a love that burns out?

When I was ready to dive deeper, she started pulling away. I barely had the skills to handle it

By Alena Papayanis

Love & Sex

Going on a sex vacation made me wonder: am I demisexual?

After a breakup, I thought I wanted to dive headfirst into casual sex. But I learned sexuality and desire are rarely static or easily defined

By Bobby Box

Love Like Mine

Double disclosure: How getting herpes helped me come out as bisexual

I’m still afraid of people’s reactions, but I’ve learned to live with the fear

By Cam Smith

Love & Sex

Dating as an autistic person can be challenging—but it’s also joyful and hot

Reframing the way we view “autistic traits,” like directness and openness, can make dating better for just about everybody

By Cassandra Kislenko

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I got ghosted by a guy I really like. Should I confront him?

Kai advises a trans reader who keeps on getting ghosted: “your actions should be focused on providing yourself with closure instead of trying to squeeze it out of him”

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

The guy I’m seeing says he likes trans women, but won’t go down on them. Should I ditch him?

“It’s important to recognize that our sexual preferences don’t emerge from a vacuum”

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m just not that into the guy I’m seeing. Can I ghost him?

“Breaking up is nearly always unpleasant. If you have to be a villain—temporarily!—how can you play that role with the greatest possible integrity and kindness?”

By Kai Cheng Thom