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Advice

Keeping up your big queer fitness regime abroad
Travel

Keeping up your big queer fitness regime abroad

An expert explains how to pack a decent workout into even the busiest itinerary

By Evan E. Lambert
Ask Kai’s greatest hits
Love & Sex

Ask Kai’s greatest hits

A look back at some of Kai’s best and most notable columns

By Ziya Jones
In the midst of despair, how do you find the will to go on?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

In the midst of despair, how do you find the will to go on?

“We have a calling, here in this decaying world, and that is to live and to serve life with every precious breath that is gifted to us”

By Kai Cheng Thom
My new date is not as political as I am. Is our relationship destined to fail?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My new date is not as political as I am. Is our relationship destined to fail?

A self-proclaimed “lefty queer” questions whether they can find true love with a “gay liberal”

By Kai Cheng Thom
Randall Garrison’s white paper on trans health and safety a call for the government to act
Politics

Randall Garrison’s white paper on trans health and safety a call for the government to act

ANALYSIS: Breaking down the recent White Paper on the Status of Trans and Gender Diverse People

By Dale Smith
Your guide to plus-size binding
Trans Health

Your guide to plus-size binding

Binding while fat can be a challenge. Here’s what worked for me

By Robin Zabiegalski
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How can I get closure without accountability?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

How can I get closure without accountability?

Kai advises a reader who is having trouble moving on from a years-old hurt

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’ve met someone amazing, but I can’t stand the way he smells. How do I talk to him about it? 
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’ve met someone amazing, but I can’t stand the way he smells. How do I talk to him about it? 

Kai weighs in on how to have a “scentsitive” conversation with a new date 

By Kai Cheng Thom
‘RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars 8’ Episode 6 recap: Don’t fuck with Joan, fellas
Drag Race

‘RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars 8’ Episode 6 recap: Don’t fuck with Joan, fellas

A Rusical challenge puts the season back on the right track

By Kevin O’Keeffe
I’m asexual but I want to have sex at least once. How should I go about it?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m asexual but I want to have sex at least once. How should I go about it?

Kai reminds a reader to “go slowly and to only engage with activities that feel good, or at least okay”

By Kai Cheng Thom
My hookup lied to me and exposed me to an STI. Can I ghost him?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My hookup lied to me and exposed me to an STI. Can I ghost him?

Kai weighs in on whether every breakup has to come with an explanation

By Kai Cheng Thom
Sometimes I don’t feel attracted to my girlfriend. Should I leave her?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Sometimes I don’t feel attracted to my girlfriend. Should I leave her?

Kai advises a reader who is struggling with inconsistent desire

By Kai Cheng Thom
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First they came for trans kids. Now, in Missouri, they’re coming after trans adults
Trans Health

First they came for trans kids. Now, in Missouri, they’re coming after trans adults

OPINION: Missouri’s targeting of gender-affirming care is part of the goal to eradicate trans people entirely

By Katelyn Burns
My friend detransitioned and has started to become transphobic. What should I do?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My friend detransitioned and has started to become transphobic. What should I do?

Kai Cheng Thom weighs in on how trans and detransitioned communities can cut through pain and anger to try to find compassion and understanding

By Kai Cheng Thom
My boyfriend can’t accept my body hair. Is it time to break up?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My boyfriend can’t accept my body hair. Is it time to break up?

A trans reader questions at what point a partner’s “preference” can become harmful

By Kai Cheng Thom
Is it ever okay to cheat on a partner?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Is it ever okay to cheat on a partner?

A reader questions whether dishonesty is justified if it prevents conflict

By Kai Cheng Thom
I love banter, but my friends say my teasing is ‘toxic’
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I love banter, but my friends say my teasing is ‘toxic’

A reader questions whether she has to change her personality in order to respect her “tender” friends’ boundaries

By Kai Cheng Thom
My job gives me stability, but it clashes with my politics. Should I quit?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My job gives me stability, but it clashes with my politics. Should I quit?

Kai advises a reader who feels like they’re selling their soul

By Kai Cheng Thom
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