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I love my boyfriend, but he’s the only guy I’ve slept with. Can I have a ‘slutty phase’ without destroying our relationship?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I love my boyfriend, but he’s the only guy I’ve slept with. Can I have a ‘slutty phase’ without destroying our relationship?

By Kai Cheng Thom
How to masturbate on cam like a pro, according to queer cam performers
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How to masturbate on cam like a pro, according to queer cam performers

Whether you want to cash out on OnlyFans or put on a show for your long-distance lover, here are tips from the pros

By Kevin Hurren
Sobriety exposed how I treated my past partners. I’m ready to date again, but do I even deserve to find love?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Sobriety exposed how I treated my past partners. I’m ready to date again, but do I even deserve to find love?

By Kai Cheng Thom
My girlfriend and I have an active sex life—but she won’t go down on me. How do I bring this up without shaming her?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My girlfriend and I have an active sex life—but she won’t go down on me. How do I bring this up without shaming her?

By Kai Cheng Thom
My roommates aren’t physically distancing and I’ve had enough. Should I call the police?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My roommates aren’t physically distancing and I’ve had enough. Should I call the police?

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’m an old gay rights activist who wants to support the younger generation. Shouldn’t I expect that support in return?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m an old gay rights activist who wants to support the younger generation. Shouldn’t I expect that support in return?

By Kai Cheng Thom
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I just got out of a long-term, sexless relationship. I want to hire a sex worker but I’m conflicted, and self-conscious. Should I just forget it?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I just got out of a long-term, sexless relationship. I want to hire a sex worker but I’m conflicted, and self-conscious. Should I just forget it?

By Kai Cheng Thom
My trans partner is traumatized by her transition, and is too triggered to support me through mine. I’m so hurt. Can this relationship be saved?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My trans partner is traumatized by her transition, and is too triggered to support me through mine. I’m so hurt. Can this relationship be saved?

By Kai Cheng Thom
Yes, you can have a healthy, happy open relationship. Here’s how
Ask an Expert

Yes, you can have a healthy, happy open relationship. Here’s how

Sex therapist Susan Wenzel answers your burning questions about non-monogamy

By Eternity Martis
My abusive ex and I run in the same queer arts circle, and I can’t leave the community without risking my livelihood. What should I do?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My abusive ex and I run in the same queer arts circle, and I can’t leave the community without risking my livelihood. What should I do?

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’m a queer support worker who struggles with addiction. How can I be open about this without risking my job?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m a queer support worker who struggles with addiction. How can I be open about this without risking my job?

By Kai Cheng Thom
My wife and I are new parents—and I’m miserable and exhausted. How can I stop feeling like a terrible parent?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My wife and I are new parents—and I’m miserable and exhausted. How can I stop feeling like a terrible parent?

By Kai Cheng Thom
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After my divorce I came out as gay—now my adult kids hate me. How do I mend our relationship?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

After my divorce I came out as gay—now my adult kids hate me. How do I mend our relationship?

By Kai Cheng Thom
My white queer friends think I should ditch my Southeast Asian parents for the holidays because they don’t accept that I’m queer. Who do I choose?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My white queer friends think I should ditch my Southeast Asian parents for the holidays because they don’t accept that I’m queer. Who do I choose?

By Kai Cheng Thom
My best friends are having babies, but I don’t want kids. How do I stay connected to my chosen family?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My best friends are having babies, but I don’t want kids. How do I stay connected to my chosen family?

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’m bisexual and going on my first date with another woman after coming out. I’m nervous. Will I know what to do?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m bisexual and going on my first date with another woman after coming out. I’m nervous. Will I know what to do?

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’m a sex worker and my partner is making me feel ashamed about what I do. Do I leave him or my job?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m a sex worker and my partner is making me feel ashamed about what I do. Do I leave him or my job?

By Kai Cheng Thom
I came out as non-binary and the people in my life are struggling to understand. How do I seek acceptance for my identity while advocating for my own needs?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I came out as non-binary and the people in my life are struggling to understand. How do I seek acceptance for my identity while advocating for my own needs?

By Kai Cheng Thom
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