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I love my boyfriend, but he’s the only guy I’ve slept with. Can I have a ‘slutty phase’ without destroying our relationship?

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Sobriety exposed how I treated my past partners. I’m ready to date again, but do I even deserve to find love?

My girlfriend and I have an active sex life—but she won’t go down on me. How do I bring this up without shaming her?

My roommates aren’t physically distancing and I’ve had enough. Should I call the police?

I’m an old gay rights activist who wants to support the younger generation. Shouldn’t I expect that support in return?

I just got out of a long-term, sexless relationship. I want to hire a sex worker but I’m conflicted, and self-conscious. Should I just forget it?

My trans partner is traumatized by her transition, and is too triggered to support me through mine. I’m so hurt. Can this relationship be saved?

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My abusive ex and I run in the same queer arts circle, and I can’t leave the community without risking my livelihood. What should I do?

I’m a queer support worker who struggles with addiction. How can I be open about this without risking my job?

My wife and I are new parents—and I’m miserable and exhausted. How can I stop feeling like a terrible parent?

After my divorce I came out as gay—now my adult kids hate me. How do I mend our relationship?

My white queer friends think I should ditch my Southeast Asian parents for the holidays because they don’t accept that I’m queer. Who do I choose?

My best friends are having babies, but I don’t want kids. How do I stay connected to my chosen family?

I’m bisexual and going on my first date with another woman after coming out. I’m nervous. Will I know what to do?

I’m a sex worker and my partner is making me feel ashamed about what I do. Do I leave him or my job?