Kai gives dating advice to a lesbian looking for no-strings-attached sex
Kai Cheng Thom
Kai Cheng Thom is a writer, performer, and social worker who divides her heart between Montreal and Toronto, unceded Indigenous territories. She is the author of the Lambda Award-nominated novel Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars: A Dangerous Trans Girl's Confabulous Memoir (Metonymy Press), as well as the poetry collection a place called No Homeland (Arsenal Pulp Press). Her latest book, Falling Back in Love with Being Human, a collection of letters and poetry, is out now from Penguin Random House Canada.
I came out as gay to my wife. Now she and my son hate me. What can I do?
Kai affirms a reader’s right to live in his truth as a gay person, and advises him on how he might build bridges with his family
I’m unhappy in my relationship and my partner is struggling. How can I possibly leave them?
Kai explains how to create an ethical and caring exit plan for a partnership that is no longer working
I’m a trans man attracted to men—but how do I get over my fear of them?
Kai advises a trans man on how to embrace his masculinity and make space for himself in cis, gay culture
How do I hire a sex worker?
The business of buying and selling skilled, ethical sexual labour is more complex than it ought to be
I survived an abusive relationship. How can I feel comfortable to start dating again?
Kai offers advice on how to re-engage with dating and sex after a traumatic partnership