Kai advises a reader who recently came out that there are many ways to build queer community
Kai Cheng Thom
Kai Cheng Thom is a writer, performer, and social worker who divides her heart between Montreal and Toronto, unceded Indigenous territories. She is the author of the Lambda Award-nominated novel Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars: A Dangerous Trans Girl's Confabulous Memoir (Metonymy Press), as well as the poetry collection a place called No Homeland (Arsenal Pulp Press). Her latest book, Falling Back in Love with Being Human, a collection of letters and poetry, is out now from Penguin Random House Canada.
How can I support my friend through addiction without breaking my boundaries?
When navigating a loved one’s addiction, giving help that harms us is not really helping anyone.
Should I start dating someone who is asexual even though I want to lose my virginity?
When it comes to setting expectations between two people with conflicting desires, it’s best not to try to figure out everything at once
My partner has depression and requires a lot of care. How can I make sure I’m also getting my needs met?
“Care so often needs to flow in a circle. Sometimes the best way to care for others is to care for ourselves”
Should I tell my friend I have feelings for them, even though they’re in a relationship?
“What if clear and honest expressions of desire, messy as they are, were seen as opportunities for growth, change and deepened intimacy?”
How do I tell someone who has feelings for me that I just want casual sex?
Kai gives dating advice to a lesbian looking for no-strings-attached sex
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