“Breaking up is nearly always unpleasant. If you have to be a villain—temporarily!—how can you play that role with the greatest possible integrity and kindness?”
Kai Cheng Thom
Kai Cheng Thom is a writer, performer, and social worker who divides her heart between Montreal and Toronto, unceded Indigenous territories. She is the author of the Lambda Award-nominated novel Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars: A Dangerous Trans Girl's Confabulous Memoir (Metonymy Press), as well as the poetry collection a place called No Homeland (Arsenal Pulp Press). Her latest book, Falling Back in Love with Being Human, a collection of letters and poetry, is out now from Penguin Random House Canada.
My girlfriend won’t take COVID-19 seriously. What should I do?
Kai weighs in on what to do when your partner is willing to take far more risks than you are
I’m genuinely falling for my new girlfriend—so why can’t I enjoy having sex with her?
A newly-out lesbian questions why she freezes whenever things heat up between her and her partner
I’m a woman in a relationship with a man. How can I explore my newfound bisexuality?
Kai advises a reader who recently came out that there are many ways to build queer community
How can I support my friend through addiction without breaking my boundaries?
When navigating a loved one’s addiction, giving help that harms us is not really helping anyone.
Should I start dating someone who is asexual even though I want to lose my virginity?
When it comes to setting expectations between two people with conflicting desires, it’s best not to try to figure out everything at once
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