Kai reminds a reader to “go slowly and to only engage with activities that feel good, or at least okay”
Kai Cheng Thom
Kai Cheng Thom is a writer, performer, and social worker who divides her heart between Montreal and Toronto, unceded Indigenous territories. She is the author of the Lambda Award-nominated novel Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars: A Dangerous Trans Girl's Confabulous Memoir (Metonymy Press), as well as the poetry collection a place called No Homeland (Arsenal Pulp Press). Her latest book, Falling Back in Love with Being Human, a collection of letters and poetry, is out now from Penguin Random House Canada.
My hookup lied to me and exposed me to an STI. Can I ghost him?
Kai weighs in on whether every breakup has to come with an explanation
Sometimes I don’t feel attracted to my girlfriend. Should I leave her?
Kai advises a reader who is struggling with inconsistent desire
My friend detransitioned and has started to become transphobic. What should I do?
Kai Cheng Thom weighs in on how trans and detransitioned communities can cut through pain and anger to try to find compassion and understanding
My boyfriend can’t accept my body hair. Is it time to break up?
A trans reader questions at what point a partner’s “preference” can become harmful
Is it ever okay to cheat on a partner?
A reader questions whether dishonesty is justified if it prevents conflict
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