Kai advises a reader who is struggling with inconsistent desire
Kai Cheng Thom
Kai Cheng Thom is a writer, performer, and social worker who divides her heart between Montreal and Toronto, unceded Indigenous territories. She is the author of the Lambda Award-nominated novel Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars: A Dangerous Trans Girl's Confabulous Memoir (Metonymy Press), as well as the poetry collection a place called No Homeland (Arsenal Pulp Press). Her latest book, Falling Back in Love with Being Human, a collection of letters and poetry, is out now from Penguin Random House Canada.
My friend detransitioned and has started to become transphobic. What should I do?
Kai Cheng Thom weighs in on how trans and detransitioned communities can cut through pain and anger to try to find compassion and understanding
My boyfriend can’t accept my body hair. Is it time to break up?
A trans reader questions at what point a partner’s “preference” can become harmful
Is it ever okay to cheat on a partner?
A reader questions whether dishonesty is justified if it prevents conflict
I love banter, but my friends say my teasing is ‘toxic’
A reader questions whether she has to change her personality in order to respect her “tender” friends’ boundaries
The lasting impact of Mira Bellwether’s zine, ‘Fucking Trans Women’
Bellwether passed away in December, but her legacy lives on through her work
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