A reader questions whether dishonesty is justified if it prevents conflict
Kai Cheng Thom
Kai Cheng Thom is a writer, performer, and social worker who divides her heart between Montreal and Toronto, unceded Indigenous territories. She is the author of the Lambda Award-nominated novel Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars: A Dangerous Trans Girl's Confabulous Memoir (Metonymy Press), as well as the poetry collection a place called No Homeland (Arsenal Pulp Press). Her latest book, Falling Back in Love with Being Human, a collection of letters and poetry, is out now from Penguin Random House Canada.
I love banter, but my friends say my teasing is ‘toxic’
A reader questions whether she has to change her personality in order to respect her “tender” friends’ boundaries
The lasting impact of Mira Bellwether’s zine, ‘Fucking Trans Women’
Bellwether passed away in December, but her legacy lives on through her work
My job gives me stability, but it clashes with my politics. Should I quit?
Kai advises a reader who feels like they’re selling their soul
How can I decolonize my desire?
I’ve been taught all my life to prioritize white beauty standards and dismiss other BIPOC guys. How can I reclaim my sexuality?
Can I text a break-up?
Text isn’t ideal, Kai Cheng advises, but the best type of break-up conversation is one you can actually do