Kai guides an elder on how to heal trauma and close the queer generation gap
Kai Cheng Thom
Kai Cheng Thom is a writer, performer, and social worker who divides her heart between Montreal and Toronto, unceded Indigenous territories. She is the author of the Lambda Award-nominated novel Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars: A Dangerous Trans Girl's Confabulous Memoir (Metonymy Press), as well as the poetry collection a place called No Homeland (Arsenal Pulp Press). Her latest book, Falling Back in Love with Being Human, a collection of letters and poetry, is out now from Penguin Random House Canada.
Is it okay to be angry when people don’t want to have sex with me?
Kai encourages a gay Asian man to celebrate his desirability and sexuality despite racism in the gay dating scene
Am I being too picky in my disdain for online dating?
Kai counsels a discerning demisexual on making virtual romantic connections in a pandemic era
My partner and I have loud fights that a friend of mine thinks might be abusive. Is she right? Is yelling the same as abuse?
Kai on the difference between conflict and abuse—and the value of healthy anger
I’m friends with my ex, but I still have feelings for them. How can I move on?
Kai Cheng Thom offers rituals to heal our grieving hearts and release our unrequited loves
People never seem to need me as much as I do them. Am I an emotional vampire?
Kai suggests ways an isolated gay man can live out his stories of need and pain