A confused reader asks Kai about the distinction between having a different memory and deliberately distorting someone’s reality
Kai Cheng Thom
Kai Cheng Thom is a writer, performer, and social worker who divides her heart between Montreal and Toronto, unceded Indigenous territories. She is the author of the Lambda Award-nominated novel Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars: A Dangerous Trans Girl's Confabulous Memoir (Metonymy Press), as well as the poetry collection a place called No Homeland (Arsenal Pulp Press). Her latest book, Falling Back in Love with Being Human, a collection of letters and poetry, is out now from Penguin Random House Canada.
I’m afraid my family will reject me for being non-binary. How do I come out to them?
Kai gives guidance to a newly-out non-binary person navigating how to be open with the people they love
I’m imperfect, but I’m trying to make change. How do I stop activists from dragging me?
Kai advises a so-called “sellout” on how to navigate conflict and build boundaries within her community
As an older trans man, do I have anything to offer the younger generation?
Kai guides an elder on how to heal trauma and close the queer generation gap
Is it okay to be angry when people don’t want to have sex with me?
Kai encourages a gay Asian man to celebrate his desirability and sexuality despite racism in the gay dating scene
Am I being too picky in my disdain for online dating?
Kai counsels a discerning demisexual on making virtual romantic connections in a pandemic era
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