“It’s difficult living in ambiguous queer life,” Kai Cheng Thom says. “I’m also not the biggest fan of queer ambiguity. I am a person whose brain and soul just really does much better with clear communication.
“One of my favourite questions to ask people when we are setting up a hangout—and I think it’s a date—is to ask this very powerful question: ‘So is this a date?'”It’s our latest in the video series “Ask Kai: Quickies,” offering sex and relationship advice for those in a hurry.