Instead of punishment, let’s try understanding justice in queer and trans communities through an ethic of love

How brain science explains queer trauma, conflict and call-out culture

Queer community doesn’t lack for discourse around sexual abuse. Yet for all of our talk, not much seems to have significantly changed—there are still victims, and there are still abusers.

Finding a physical activity that I loved came at the cost of putting up with countless small acts of hostility

How I honoured Chinese funeral tradition, my family and queerness at my grandfather’s funeral

The more I am told that the traditional dress of my ancestors will never be mine, the more stubbornly I try to squeeze my body into its confines

When mainstream media decides to make public figures out of us, you learn that rising to the top is lonely

Kai Cheng Thom

I’m trans and studying for a career in an industry dominated by straight men. The microaggressions are getting to me. Should I drop out?

We can choose to consume each other, or we can choose love

I believe my friend has changed their abusive ways, but our queer friends don’t buy it. How can I support my friend?

I’m dating a woman in a polyamorous relationship and I feel like her last priority. Am I better off alone?

So-called accountability processes are tearing my community apart. What can I do?

Why are queer people so mean to each other?

My wife and I own a small business but I do all the work. How do I keep holding on?

I want to explore polyamory but I live in a small community. What happens if word gets out?

My friends dumped me because of my stance against police. Do I try to fix this?

The guy I’m dating is really into trans women. Is it love — or a fetish?

The world is burning. Should I bring a baby into it?

Melting the ice around #MeToo stories in the queer community

What I learned, loved and lost as a trans Zumba addict

My mother’s daughter, my father’s son: a trans Chinese woman on finding joy in the ancestral rites of death

How the Cheongsam helped me find my trans womanhood

What nobody tells you about being a trans woman of colour author