I came out as non-binary and the people in my life are struggling to understand. How do I seek acceptance for my identity while advocating for my own needs?

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I believe my friend has changed their abusive ways, but our queer friends don’t buy it. How can I support my friend?

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m dating a woman in a polyamorous relationship and I feel like her last priority. Am I better off alone?

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

So-called accountability processes are tearing my community apart. What can I do?

By Kai Cheng Thom

Analysis

Why are queer people so mean to each other?

How brain science explains queer trauma, conflict and call-out culture

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My wife and I own a small business but I do all the work. How do I keep holding on?

By Kai Cheng Thom

Culture

Inventor of the gender reveal cake is very sorry

Her gender non-conforming kid has taught her that the binary is half-baked

By Rachel Giese

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I want to explore polyamory but I live in a small community. What happens if word gets out?

By Kai Cheng Thom

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My friends dumped me because of my stance against police. Do I try to fix this?

By Kai Cheng Thom

Love Like Mine

I was outed as bisexual. Falling in love helped me come out on my own terms

I spent years grappling with my sexuality — until she helped me come out on my own terms

By Thokozani Mbwana

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

The guy I’m dating is really into trans women. Is it love — or a fetish?

By Kai Cheng Thom

Love Like Mine

Coming out and coming home to Mormon country

What it’s like to return to a place where I never thought I could be myself

By Samantha Allen

Personal Essay

Dear Dad: In your silence, I found acceptance

I came out, and we never talked about it again. But I know you’ve grown to love who I am

By Erica Lenti

Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

The world is burning. Should I bring a baby into it?

By Kai Cheng Thom

Love & Sex

Seven questions with Xtra’s new advice columnist, Kai Cheng Thom

“Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse” is a column to help you survive and thrive in a challenging world

By Eternity Martis

Personal Essay

My queer adolescent year of extreme baking

Were the assertive flavours and temperatures of Fudge Ribbon Pie a metaphor for my unacknowledged desires?

By Marusya Bociurkiw

Love Like Mine

I’m not for everyone, but she still chose me

She chose this life with me over any other, and I’ll happily do what I can to make sure she doesn’t change her mind

By Sofie Mikhaylova

Parenting

I’m a non-binary parent. There still isn’t space for me

I don’t fit the labels of ‘mom’ or ‘dad.’ It’s time society tackled the gendered expectations of parenthood

By andrea bennett