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Love & Sex

My best friends are having babies, but I don’t want kids. How do I stay connected to my chosen family?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My best friends are having babies, but I don’t want kids. How do I stay connected to my chosen family?

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’m bisexual and going on my first date with another woman after coming out. I’m nervous. Will I know what to do?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m bisexual and going on my first date with another woman after coming out. I’m nervous. Will I know what to do?

By Kai Cheng Thom
Finding refuge in trans sisterhood
Love & Sex

Finding refuge in trans sisterhood

I fight for trans rights because of my trans sisters. It’s my small way of returning the love that has meant the difference between death and life

By Gwen Benaway
I’m a sex worker and my partner is making me feel ashamed about what I do. Do I leave him or my job?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m a sex worker and my partner is making me feel ashamed about what I do. Do I leave him or my job?

By Kai Cheng Thom
When your abuser is also queer
Love & Sex

When your abuser is also queer

‘I didn’t know what it meant to be afraid of another woman’

By Carmen Maria Machado
I came out as non-binary and the people in my life are struggling to understand. How do I seek acceptance for my identity while advocating for my own needs?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I came out as non-binary and the people in my life are struggling to understand. How do I seek acceptance for my identity while advocating for my own needs?

By Kai Cheng Thom
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Looking back on the year I was 23
Love & Sex

Looking back on the year I was 23

I thought the number 23 held a certain kind of magic. I still do

By Ivan E Coyote
The Canadian federal election is coming up. As a queer person, I’m not confident in any of the candidates. Should I even vote?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

The Canadian federal election is coming up. As a queer person, I’m not confident in any of the candidates. Should I even vote?

By Kai Cheng Thom
I’m trans and studying for a career in an industry dominated by straight men. The microaggressions are getting to me. Should I drop out?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m trans and studying for a career in an industry dominated by straight men. The microaggressions are getting to me. Should I drop out?

By Kai Cheng Thom
Coming into my queer identity as a Somali teen
Love & Sex

Coming into my queer identity as a Somali teen

School work and learning the Quran took a backseat to pill popping and craving exotic boys

By Mohamed Abdulkarim Ali
We can choose to consume each other, or we can choose love
Books

We can choose to consume each other, or we can choose love

Instead of punishment, let’s try understanding justice in queer and trans communities through an ethic of love

By Kai Cheng Thom
I believe my friend has changed their abusive ways, but our queer friends don’t buy it. How can I support my friend?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I believe my friend has changed their abusive ways, but our queer friends don’t buy it. How can I support my friend?

By Kai Cheng Thom
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Being a Christian teen abstinence activist shaped my Black queer feminism
Personal Essay

Being a Christian teen abstinence activist shaped my Black queer feminism

Growing up, I thought that purity was the only choice when it came to sex — until I began questioning what that meant

By Neesha Powell-Twagirumukiza
I’m dating a woman in a polyamorous relationship and I feel like her last priority. Am I better off alone?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m dating a woman in a polyamorous relationship and I feel like her last priority. Am I better off alone?

By Kai Cheng Thom
So-called accountability processes are tearing my community apart. What can I do?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

So-called accountability processes are tearing my community apart. What can I do?

By Kai Cheng Thom
Falling in love with my Black, queer, fat body
Love Like Mine

Falling in love with my Black, queer, fat body

My grandfather’s death taught me the depths of grief — and the importance of loving my unruly body

By Arkee E
Why are queer people so mean to each other?
Analysis

Why are queer people so mean to each other?

How brain science explains queer trauma, conflict and call-out culture

By Kai Cheng Thom
My wife and I own a small business but I do all the work. How do I keep holding on?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My wife and I own a small business but I do all the work. How do I keep holding on?

By Kai Cheng Thom
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