My grandfather’s death taught me the depths of grief — and the importance of loving my unruly body

How brain science explains queer trauma, conflict and call-out culture

Her gender non-conforming kid has taught her that the binary is half-baked

Life as our family knew it was about to change. But Zoë was a perfect name to start anew

I spent years grappling with my sexuality — until she helped me come out on my own terms

What it’s like to return to a place where I never thought I could be myself

I came out, and we never talked about it again. But I know you’ve grown to love who I am

When you come into adulthood in a dark age, whatever you achieve always seems secondary to the bigger problems of the world

“Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse” is a column to help you survive and thrive in a challenging world

Were the assertive flavours and temperatures of Fudge Ribbon Pie a metaphor for my unacknowledged desires?

She chose this life with me over any other, and I’ll happily do what I can to make sure she doesn’t change her mind

I don’t fit the labels of ‘mom’ or ‘dad.’ It’s time society tackled the gendered expectations of parenthood

If these texts offer a framework for how we might embody queer desire, then they can also model for us how we might survive abuse, how we might make it home

Love & Sex

Falling in love with my Black, queer, fat body

Why are queer people so mean to each other?

My wife and I own a small business but I do all the work. How do I keep holding on?

Inventor of the gender reveal cake is very sorry

I want to explore polyamory but I live in a small community. What happens if word gets out?

After my wife came out as trans, we found her name together

My friends dumped me because of my stance against police. Do I try to fix this?

I was outed as bisexual. Falling in love helped me come out on my own terms

The guy I’m dating is really into trans women. Is it love — or a fetish?

Coming out and coming home to Mormon country

Dear Dad: In your silence, I found acceptance

The world is burning. Should I bring a baby into it?

I came out at the height of the AIDS crisis — joining a generation of young men just waiting to die

Seven questions with Xtra’s new advice columnist, Kai Cheng Thom

My queer adolescent year of extreme baking

I’m not for everyone, but she still chose me

I’m a non-binary parent. There still isn’t space for me

How memoirs by femmes became a second mother to me