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I’m imperfect, but I’m trying to make change. How do I stop activists from dragging me?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

I’m imperfect, but I’m trying to make change. How do I stop activists from dragging me?

Kai advises a so-called “sellout” on how to navigate conflict and build boundaries within her community

By Kai Cheng Thom
Chosen family versus COVID-19
Health

Chosen family versus COVID-19

The death of a dear friend inspires a writer to ask: Who gets to make decisions about your health care if you’re incapacitated?

By Nancy Irwin
A polyamorous couple decides that swapping stories of their sexual exploits isn’t enough
Creating Community

A polyamorous couple decides that swapping stories of their sexual exploits isn’t enough

A favourite sex club points the way with its online parties

By Tiffany Regaudie
A non-binary writer and editor banished from London starts an online zine
Creating Community

A non-binary writer and editor banished from London starts an online zine

Trapped in their parents’ house in Bristol, Sam Moore has found a whole new community of queer writers and editors

By Sam Moore
Is it okay to be angry when people don’t want to have sex with me?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Is it okay to be angry when people don’t want to have sex with me?

Kai encourages a gay Asian man to celebrate his desirability and sexuality despite racism in the gay dating scene

By Kai Cheng Thom
Whether epic or humdrum, ‘Gay Bar’ chases the elusive possibility of queer social spaces
Books

Whether epic or humdrum, ‘Gay Bar’ chases the elusive possibility of queer social spaces

U.K. writer Jeremy Atherton Lin’s new book chronicles the history of the gay bars he’s visited—and his adventures inside them

By Paul Gallant
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A queer settler communications pro finds connection in another world
Creating Community

A queer settler communications pro finds connection in another world

She and a group of friends have thoroughly queered “Dungeons and Dragons”

By Meg Shannon
Topline: Video calls saved my life
Xtra Weekly

Topline: Video calls saved my life

The surprising siblinghood of depression, Kurt Cobain and Super Mario 

By Chelle Turingan
A bisexual writer in Ottawa fights isolation one focaccia recipe at a time
Creating Community

A bisexual writer in Ottawa fights isolation one focaccia recipe at a time

Alanna Why’s group chat offers practical advice, new connections and healthy servings of gossip

By Alanna Why
How to be a better hookup
Ask an Expert

How to be a better hookup

Sex educator Allison Moon teaches all of us how to be kinder, more playful, more ethical sluts

By Andy Bandyopadhyay
The journey to myself
Love Like Mine

The journey to myself

All it took was one phone call to start a process of growth, healing, learning and unlearning 

By Samantha Peters
A very queer guide to Valentine’s Day 2021
Love & Sex

A very queer guide to Valentine’s Day 2021

Queer the saccharine Hallmark holiday with gifts for your friends, lovers, chosen family and more!

By S. Bear Bergman
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My best friend is hooking up with my worst enemies. What do I do?
Ask Kai: Quickies

My best friend is hooking up with my worst enemies. What do I do?

It’s going to get messy

By Xtra Video
Am I being too picky in my disdain for online dating?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

Am I being too picky in my disdain for online dating?

Kai counsels a discerning demisexual on making virtual romantic connections in a pandemic era

By Kai Cheng Thom
My partner and I have loud fights that a friend of mine thinks might be abusive. Is she right? Is yelling the same as abuse?
Ask Kai: Advice for the Apocalypse

My partner and I have loud fights that a friend of mine thinks might be abusive. Is she right? Is yelling the same as abuse?

Kai on the difference between conflict and abuse—and the value of healthy anger 

By Kai Cheng Thom
How to sext safely
Sex

How to sext safely

A guide to protecting your privacy while getting intimate online

By Noelle Perdue
The ongoing struggle for racial justice forced me to drop my racist ex
Love Like Mine

The ongoing struggle for racial justice forced me to drop my racist ex

Part of being an ally is knowing when to leave a toxic situation

By Omar Taleb
I’m a lesbian and not into relationships. Is it harsh to tell someone I’m just interested in sex?
Ask Kai: Quickies

I’m a lesbian and not into relationships. Is it harsh to tell someone I’m just interested in sex?

Kai on how to talk about hookups

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