‘Gay butterflies’ from ‘straight cocoons’

Dan Savage talks promiscuity and 'inseminating his husband for God' with Bill Maher


Dan Savage, on the Bill Maher show, July 19, 2013. YouTube

“I’m always telling people who say ‘two men can’t make a baby’ that anything is possible for God. I’m gonna keep inseminating my husband and keep my fingers crossed,” laughed author and activist Dan Savage, much to the chagrin of conservative guests caught on camera looking uncomfortable.

It was classic Savage when he appeared on HBO’s Real Time with Bill Maher on July 19.

“Let’s try to not make these guys throw up in their mouths any more than they have,” quipped Maher.

The duo covers wide ground in this video segment, from the It Gets Better Project founded by Savage and his husband Terry Miller, to the flawed arguments of conservative gadflies Maggie Gallagher and Tony Perkins, to male promiscuity and adoption.

Savage explained his theory that gay men are more promiscuous, but only because they’re men. Savage says gay male couples are least likely to be monogamous, followed by straight couples, and that lesbian couples are most likely to be monogamous. Savage concluded “clearly the problem with monogamy is dick.”

Savage and his partner have raised their 15-year-old adopted son since birth, so he had first hand advice for Maher on the theories of nurture versus nature often put forward by rightwingers.

Savage’s latest book, American Savage, hit shelves in May.

Listen to Savage’s podcast Savage Lovecast.

Savage and Miller’s video for the It Gets Better Project.

And here is Daily Xtra’s video interview with Savage.

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