Ask Kai: Quickies

My best friend is hooking up with my worst enemies. What do I do?

It’s going to get messy

By Xtra Video • February 9, 2021 5:01 pm EDT

Kai Cheng Thom

“Ask Kai: Quick Tips for the Apocalypse” is our video series with Kai Cheng Thom offering advice to those in a hurry. Have a question? Email askkai@xtramagazine.com.

What do you do when your best friend starts hooking up with people you can’t stand? Oh, and you and your best friend live together. And it’s a pandemic. Xtra columnist and author Kai Cheng Thom is here with the answers. It’s our latest in the video series “Ask Kai: Quick Tips for the Apocalypse,” offering relationship advice for those in a hurry. 

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