Ask Kai: Quickies

How do I ask my friend if they want to hook up?

Let the awkwardness wash over you

By Xtra Video • July 27, 2021 5:00 pm EDT

Kai Cheng Thom has good news and bad news for a reader who wants to know if there’s any smooth, totally-not-awkward way to ask a friend if they want to hook up. “I’ve been thinking for years—literally years—if there’s a way to ask,” Kai says.

It’s our latest in the video series “Ask Kai: Quick Tips for the Apocalypse,” offering relationship advice for those in a hurry.

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