“I don’t know if it’s always possible to be firm in our identities before we start dating other people,” Kai Cheng Thom says. “If we notice that our attractions and our gender identities are falling outside of the box of prescribed heteronormativity, then I think it’s pretty fair to call oneself queer, to experiment with that label and then also to discard it if it’s not feeling right later on.”
It’s our latest in the video series Ask Kai: Quickies, offering advice on sex, dating and relationships for those of you in a hurry.
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