How do you have group sex that isn’t weird?

Sex in general can be weird, but a great orgy starts with collective consent and continuous communication

“Sex becomes much easier when we are able to communicate what we want, what we don’t want, and what we’re going to try. And it can be really helpful in the group sex situation to have that conversation as a group in advance,” says Xtra advice columnist Kai Cheng Thom.

It’s our latest in the video series “Ask Kai: Quick Tips for the Apocalypse,” offering relationship advice for those in a hurry.

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