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A viewer wants to ask Kai, “Am I allowed to send them home?”

“Consent is an ongoing dynamic process,” Kai Cheng Thom says, “and we are always allowed to change our minds. That’s okay. And there is no reason that you should have to have sex or intimacy with anyone when you’re not feeling it just to make them feel better about themselves.”

It’s our latest in the video series “Ask Kai: Quick Tips for the Apocalypse,” offering relationship advice for those in a hurry.

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