Ask Kai: Quickies

I’m a lesbian and not into relationships. Is it harsh to tell someone I’m just interested in sex?

Kai on how to talk about hookups

By Xtra Video • January 12, 2021 9:30 am EDT

A lesbian in their early twenties asks Xtra columnist and author Kai Cheng Thom how to engage in casual sex without feeling guilty. It’s our latest in the video series “Ask Kai: Quick Tips for the Apocalypse,” offering relationship advice for those in a hurry.

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