Is sex overrated?

A growing ‘asexual pride’ movement seems to think so, as the whoopie-adjacent are now demanding society stop discriminating against them for, umm, what they’re not doing.

But when I see today how gay sexuality is being used as a cheap ratings stunt for ‘Gossip Girl’ (hey, gay guys are the new lesbians!), I can see how the asexuals do have a point. We all know that sex is mostly just used to sell stuff, like with this cheesy clip of “Twilight: New Moon” actor Alex Meraz making the rounds on the internet:

I am not seeing that movie and I don’t care how many shirtless boys they throw at us to make us!

Then, of course, there’s the serious part — the harrowing news of one new study from the US that says gay men and
other men who have sex with men contract AIDS at a rate more than 50
times greater
than women and non-gay/bi men (condoms, people, condoms!!) and
another finding that circumcision is not the defense against HIV some have believed. On the bright side, I guess I can cancel that surgery appointment!

Even dating can be a nightmare (hearing this, I’m so glad I’m not a single straight girl!) and one starts to wonder if Penelope Cruz and Pedro Almodovar have the right idea. Can you really party without sex? And if so, does it mean having to listen to Miley Cyrus?

 

Could you really live without it?

A former editor of the late, lamented fab magazine, Scott has been writing for Xtra since 2007 on a variety of topics in news pieces, interviews, blogs, reviews and humour pieces. He lives on the Danforth with his boyfriend of 12 years, a manic Jack Russell Terrier, a well-stocked mini-bar and a shelf of toy Daleks.

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