Kai Cheng Thom says, “I wish more people would ask this question of me, of themselves, of their partners, because there are so many sexual situations in which we just sort of go along to get along. I believe having pleasure is good and you are allowed to tell someone who is your consenting sexual partner what it is that you would specifically like.
”It’s our latest in the video series “Ask Kai: Quick Tips for the Apocalypse,” offering relationship advice for those in a hurry.