Ask Kai: Quickies

My family is still struggling to remember my pronouns. What can I do?

Aim for “patience and gentle compassion, but also holding boundaries,” Kai says

By Xtra Video • July 13, 2021 5:00 pm EDT

A reader’s family is still having a hard time remembering to use the right pronouns. They mean well, but it’s just not sticking — is there a way to make it easier? Kai Cheng Thom is here with the answers. 

It’s our latest in the video series “Ask Kai: Quick Tips for the Apocalypse,” offering relationship advice for those in a hurry. 

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