You can’t spell ‘homosexuality’ without ‘SEX’

If you haven’t read Andrea Houston’s excellent piece on the loss of the Fetish Fair, go read that now before you pore over this bit. Consider this extra reading to accompany Houston’s work.

Take a look at the following pictures:


These are all major businesses in the Church-Wellesley Village. They’re all on street level, in full view of anyone who comes by. Sex has always been a major part of the Village, and it always will be. So why in God’s name would businesses flock to Church St, set up shop and try to bring in gay dollars if they have an issue with gay sex?

The problem the CWVBIA has right now is that members are trying to create some sort of gay utopia where everyone is gay or lesbian or trans or bi, but they never have sex and they never talk about it. Horseshit. Pretending the LGBT community doesn’t enjoy a good fuck is like pretending dogs don’t lick their own balls. You can set up as many bouncy castles and deserted Ferris wheels as you want, but that’s not going to remove the sex from the Village.

The idea that the gay village can integrate both family values and sexual impulses shouldn’t be that difficult to grasp, yet for some reason people think it’s impossible. For God’s sake — there’s an elementary school right next to a strip club, a leather bar and a sex shop. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: accepting the fact that members of your family are human, and therefore sexual, is a fundamental part of growing up. Stop trying to pretend that the two are so far removed that you have to choose one or another.

The Village is a place for both kink and family. There’s a proper way to balance the two; you’re just not doing it right.

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