5 queer songs to get you in the mood (plus 20 more to keep it going)

For Valentine’s Day, we’ve curated your perfect queer sex playlist

Valentine’s Day is here, and let’s face it, the expectations that come along with the holiday can be stressful. This playlist is here to help. 

Our specially curated queer sex playlist is the ultimate mood-setter, guaranteed to heat things up and add a little extra spice to your Valentine’s Day celebration.

What better way to dive into the vibrant and diverse world of queerness and queer sex than through music? Music captures and conveys our deepest desires, raw emotions and lived experiences. 

This playlist features many of your favourite artists, including Miley Cyrus, Sam Smith, Fletcher, Frank Ocean, Lil Nas X, Demi Lovato and King Princess, along with some lesser-known but equally talented artists such as Victoria Monét, Syd, Sakima and Arlo Parks. 

Whether it be a tender moment with a longtime partner, an erotic rendezvous with a new flame, exploring uncharted territory, a steamy know you shouldnt but it feels so good session with an ex or everything in between, these tracks are here to guide all your intimate moments. 

So, sit back, relax and let this playlist take you on a journey through the many different facets of queer sex—from the gentle and sensual to the intense and seductive.

1. King Princess—“Pussy Is God”

Genderqueer artist King Princess’s “Pussy Is God,” released in 2018, is a bold and empowering anthem celebrating queer love and sexuality—I mean … look at that title. Lyrics such as “​​I’ve been praying for hours/ You know that it’s God, baby, when you’re around her” express themes of desire, passion and divinity. “Pussy Is God” focuses on genuine emotion, and empowering and validating queer experiences.

With its bold celebration of queer love and sexuality, this is the perfect opening track for your session, setting the tone for an intimate and uplifting journey. This song is for your divine sexual moments, whether that be experiencing the beauty and power of queer sex for the first time or reaching climax with a partner you love and feel safe with. Let this song elevate your next acts of queer sex to a sacred and transcendent experience.

Favourite Lyrics: “I think star signs mean nothing/ But I know you feel right so I’m coming”

2. Arlo Parks—“Hope” 


British singer/songwriter Arlo Parks released the indie-pop single “Hope” in 2020. Parks, who is openly bisexual, chronicles her sexuality and mental health struggles through her music. The lyrics of the gentle “Hope” explore themes of loneliness, acceptance and support. She repeats, “You’re not alone like you think you are,” sending out a message of comfort, and letting the listener know they are not alone in their struggles. 

Her music provides a sense of representation and validation for the queer community, fostering a safe atmosphere for your intimate experiences. The sweet, gentle melody of this poetic tune gracefully sets the mood for your next heartfelt queer sex session—it’s the perfect track for dedicating a night of intimacy, filled with passion, love and romance, to celebrating a milestone such as an anniversary with a long-term partner. 

Favourite lyrics: “Wearing suffering like a silk garment or a spot of blue ink/ Looking for light and finding a hole where there shouldn’t be one.… But know that I know and you’re not alone”

3. FLETCHER (with Kito)—“Bitter” 

Acclaimed queer pop artist Fletcher dropped the sexy, upbeat pop song “Bitter” in 2020. The lyrics express heartbreak and betrayal as Fletcher sings of a past lover and the pain that comes when she imagines her with someone new. The emotions expressed in the lyrics are raw, honest, relatable and undeniably hot. The fiery tones of this tune make it perfect for the passionate reconciliation of makeup sex or your angry breakup sex. This song will drive you to new heights of pleasure as you explore the intense and emotional landscapes of heated sex. 

Favourite Lyrics: “I know you think about me when you kiss her/ I left a taste in your mouth, can she taste me now?”

4. Janelle Monáe—“I Like That” 

Pansexual and non-binary R&B/soul singer Janelle Monáe, also known for their impressive performances in the films Hidden Figures and Glass Onion, dropped the track “I Like That” on Dirty Computer in 2018. “I Like That” is a soulful, celebratory song that showcases Monáe’s powerful vocals. The lyrics highlight self-acceptance and embracing individuality. They note the things they like about themselves, despite what others may think: “I like my quirks, I love my stretch marks.” The chorus, “And I like that/ I don’t really give a fuck if I was just the only one/ Who likes that …” is a statement of self-confidence and a message of empowerment for others to embrace themselves. The song’s energy, and confident lyrics are the perfect fuel for releasing and relinquishing any thoughts or preconceived notions that are not serving you or your partner during sex, or asking to try out a new position you’ve been thinking about forever. In letting go, you can achieve new heights in sex by tapping into your true desires. 

Favourite Lyrics: “I’m always left of centre and that’s right where I belong/ I’m the random minor note you hear in major songs/ And I like that/ I don’t really give a fuck if I was just the only one”

5. Victoria Monét—“F.U.C.K.”

Queer singer-songwriter Victoria Monét dropped the hot R&B track “F.U.C.K.”—which stands for “Friend You Can Keep”—in 2021. This song is a powerful anthem for queerness as it embraces the freedom and fluidity of intimate relationships and connections. Its confident and unapologetic tone speaks to the ability to explore and express one’s sexuality freely. Sultry, seductive lyrics, paired with a tantalizing tempo and an irresistible rhythm, make this the perfect friends-with-benefits song. Let this track guide you in exploring your sexual desires and interests in a noncommittal way. In the freedom to explore, without expectations and pressures that come with traditional relationships, pleasure and playfulness emerge—and it’s sexy as hell.

Favourite Lyrics: “Uh, I’m just tryna jump your bones/ We don’t gotta jump the broom, you know”

6. Arlo Parks—“Paperbacks”

7. Nasty Cherry—“I Am King”

8. Sakima (feat. YLXR)—“Daddy”

9. Kehlani (feat. Ty Dolla $ign)—“Nights Like This”

10. Kevin Abstract—“Peach”

11. Sam Smith & Kim Petras—“Unholy”

12. Miley Cyrus—“Adore You”

13. MUNA—“No Idea”

14. Cardi B & Bruno Mars—“Please Me”

15. Lil Nas X—“SUN GOES DOWN”

16. Syd (feat. 6LACK)—“Over”

17. Frank Ocean—“Thinkin Bout You”

18. Victoria Monét—“Ass Like That”

19. MUNA—“Handle Me”

20. Demi Lovato—“Body Say”

21. Syd—“All About Me”

22. Kehlani—“Butterfly”

23. Wet—“You’re the Best”

24. Lomelda—“It’s Infinite”

25. Frank Ocean—“Pyramids”

So, press play, turn up the volume and get ready for rounds one, two and beyond; with this playlist as your companion, you’ll be sure to enjoy every moment.

Sylvia Anne (she/her) is a freelance journalist and student at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, where she majors in political science, and is an arts writer at the student-run newspaper, "The Daily Cardinal". She is currently based in Chicago and Madison.

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